Hello gappans (what a cool word),
I’ve recently joined this forum due to my upcoming wedding (in shaa allah). I have started the planning process, and frankly it’s been a rough journey so far lol. If you’re a fellow survivor of bridezilia - then please share your advice/story. It’s one thing to plan a wedding, but on top of that, planning it in Canada requires additional efforts and creativity since we don’t have a market that caters to our needs (at least not with the versatility of the Pakistani market). Another issue I’ve encountered is dress-related (surprise, surprise!!). I am very much into the latest jaal look (cutwork and all). I have consulted an “emerging” Pakistani designer who is starting to give me weird vibes. My gut tells me there’s something fishy about her…She doesn’t post much of her work online… However, a famous blogger has endorsed her… Thankfully, I stalked through enough posts on this site to realize how so many wedding vendors these days like to rip people off. However, I might be slightly paranoid - I did place an eid outfit order with the same designer in hopes of getting a peak at her work. Now, let’s see what happens.
Wow. I feel like I went off on a tangent lol… Oops
Re: A bridezilla's very first post :)
Unless you have seen a deisgners bridal work with your own two eyes or is endorsed by 1million prople don't fall for their crap!
Delegate, delegate & delegate. Let go of a few things if you have are a control freak. Give venue/Decor to dad, dances and family outfits to sisters etc but do delegate. You can't do it all by yourself
When things get tough during this planning, which they will for sure take a breath & remind urself that it's about marriage not really about the wedding
If you have a 3-4 day event (dholki, menhndi, mayoon, barat, valima etc) keep a rest day in between (extremely important for u will burn out!)
Hire a good photographer, not necessarily a famous one!
If you are dealing via emails or WhatsApp make sure u have everything in writing. All your expectations and all your translations, anything u discuss with ur vendors on the phone should be recaped in an email and sent to them just to manage expectations from both sides.
If anything else comes to my mind I shall update this post :) good luck!
P.s: I was the queen of bridezillas!
Re: A bridezilla’s very first post 
Lol trust me I would love to delegate tasks - but hardly anyone is willing to help. My family members are busy with their own little endeavours. I have also asked some friends for help, but with my luck no one is available to help right now. I guess I just need to be patient, I’m lucky that most of my events will be next year, so I still have lots of time, allhamdulilah. But wedding planning feels like a full-time job. Would you ever consider hiring a planner? I was initially considering that possibility, but I felt like I could allocate that money to a prettier dress, or decor or something else. I have planned a friend’s wedding not too long ago, so thankfully I gained some experience from that. And you mentioned something about being a control-freak, I feel like I can’t help it - because I’m unfortunately a type A personality, and I like to get things done my way. I’m also very meticulous about things, so it’s difficult for me to trust others with decor, venue, etc. Anyway, right now though my biggest fear is getting scammed by a dress designer. My budget for a dress is 3 lakhs max. So that leaves me with very little wiggle room for mistakes. Any recommendations? Other than this “emerging” designer, I have consulted Ayesha Yousaf (also, another newbie to the fashion scene - but has great reviews from a lot of clients). Additionally, I’m also keeping in contact with Tena Durrani’s team - though she has a lot of dresses within my budget, I’m not 100% satisfied with her designs… See that’s my problem, I want what I want - and it’s very hard to achieve it realistically within by budget. 
Re: A bridezilla’s very first post 
You are my mirror image afrom a year back and a year later you would be giving the same advice I gave you after your experience
I did everything from the decor, menu, my outfit, invitations etc all by myself cuz I’m the same type A personality!
There are times I regret going into such nitty gritty and there are times I don’t and I’m proud of the work I put into my events.
Anyhow check out Shiza Hassan, my friend got her bridal from her and she is a newbie kina designer and is doing the jaal work you spoke about.
Good luck!
Re: A bridezilla’s very first post
Are you sure about Shiza Hassan? Because I’ve read other reviews on this forum and many girls have had bad experience with her. If I’m not mistaken - I think someone also complained about her tacky fabrics/ fake chantilly laces and stain marks (some outfits looked worn out). When did your friend order her bridal dress from Shiza? And do you have any pictures? How was your friend’s overall experience with this designer. Please do share
Re: A bridezilla's very first post :)
Really? My sister too is looking into getting a dress from her. The girl isn't a direct friend of mine but was in my school and I know her from others who are close to me. She married shiza's brother and u can see her wearing her outfits on her fb page all the time. In my experience the outfits don't look tacky at all but I'll do some research on it & get back to you!
