I used to be so bubbly and chatty to people until recently. Even people i just met or close friends id always be enthusiastic in the convos etc etc not in a weird annoying way though, just normal, until people stopped putting in effort so i did the same. Why should i always be the one to make an effort. So i went out to catch up with close friends over lunch the other day and it was hell! i decided that i would not act as i normally would and just contribute as minimal as they normally would, it was torturous! no-one was saying anything, no convo nothing!
should i continue to act like this or should i be the bigger person and just put the effort in?
Re: A brick probably has more personality than me in a social setting.
You won't be the bigger person if you're putting in the effort but at the same time feeling resentful towards your friends - what kind of friendship would that be? If you want to make an effort, do it from the heart and don't expect too much (so you won't get disappointed either). Otherwise find some new friends who are more like you.
Re: A brick probably has more personality than me in a social setting.
lol i would talk if i could .. but I usually run out of stuff to say. If you can, put effort in convo but don't kiss their asses sort of way ... people will enjoy your company
errr... find new friends? you obviously have nothing in common with the current ones if you are the only one talking
p.s) unless you are one of those ppl that find even a minute of silence as too long and disturbing??? in that case, calm down. nithing is wrong with them. ppl dont have to be talking every sec when they are together.
Re: A brick probably has more personality than me in a social setting.
Please forgive me if I don't talk much at times. It is loud enough in my head. With that said, don't go out of your way to avoid talking unless they are intentionally avoiding interacting with you.
Has your group of friends encountered a period of transition lately? High school ending? College ending? Marriages?
Often is the case with our friends that the most common thing we have with them is merely attending the same institution.
At transition periods you have to sat goodbye to some simply because the only thing u guys really had common has ended. By things in common I mean personality and activities, not we both feel the same about ryan goslings body.
However, you will find that those who are your true friends will keep in touch no matter the distance or time elapsed.