**If a wife cheats or does something else serious and he chooses to stay with her does that make him a better husband than one who leaves or a cuckold?
**Does your answer change according to whether they have kids or do you think she should stay or walk out regardless? Or wait and see if she changes and if so how long is reasonable.. weeks, months or years?
Re: A better husband
My answer remains the same...the two non-negotiables are infelidy and domstic violence. When a marriage deteriorates to the point where when spouse has an affair, or raises a hand on the other, the marriage is not valued. It does not matter who the offending spouse is. It may sound harsh, and usually I am not a person who sees things as just "black and white", but when it comes to the sanctitiy of marriage, I don't see how I could ever get over being cheated on or hit/beaten.
Re: A better husband
Wouldn't blame him for walking out after an affair.. or any of the stuff that was mentioned in the other thread..
Are we counting emotional affairs?
Re: A better husband
Marriage is commitment. If one spouse can't commit, than what's the point in staying in such a relationship? Once a cheater always a cheater, right?
Like khattichic said, there's 2 things that you just can't overlook in a marriage; infidelity and violence. Doesn't matter who it's from.
In regards to your question about, being a "better" husband... I don't think so. I think its harder for someone to leave a family/spouse... a household you've built over the years. It's easier to turn a blind eye - I don't mean in the sense of ignoring what the spouse did, but more in the sense of letting the matter go easier than one actually wants to. I hope that made sense.. =/ But still, having said that, you can't really judge whether someone is 'better' than someone else bcos of the way they handled a situation. Everyone is different, and everyone's reasons to stay or leave would be different as well.