Just have been going through a very odd experience as of late.
I live in USA, and currently living in a 4 bedroom house along with 5 other family members (Mom, Dad, Older Brother, Bhabi, 2nd Older Brother)
everything was going fine until last night when my mother told me that my brother and bhaabi are having a baby… the next morning.
I was like WTF!
I have been living with them for over a year, and absolutely had no idea she was pregnant and suddenly pops out a baby from no where.
After a while it took me to get over the surprising shock, but what I was really upset about was the fact that my mother hid the news from me for the last couple months.
For god sakes, I am 19 years old, and took Sex Education in high school.
Why do most desis parents are ashamed of such things.
There is nothing wrong with bringing a new life into the world, why hide it?
Thats just sad. I think sometimes the pregnancy is hidden from others to avoid bad luck or the evil eye, that kind of thing. But hiding it from close family like its something shameful. Sad sad sad. and ignorant.
nah friends, she wore baggy shalwaar kameez for couple months, one didn't notice that much.
I did have a hint one time but I didn't pay attention to it.
Are you the unobservant type? No matter how "big" a person is, if you're living under one roof you can't miss the signs. The tummy is one (yes, even on someone who isn't petite), increased appetite, weird cravings, morning sickness, and the most obvious - erratic mood swings?
I am a very busy guy, and only see them once or twice a day.
But that still shouldn't be an excuse for them to hide it till the last minute.
Plus they are very old fashioned and have a healthy relationship with them.
And I can assure you that I have spent amount of time with my family and didn't notice as such.
I don't know if I would really call it a Desi thing to hide pregnancy. With our first child, I was rushed to the hospital from being dehydrated from all the morning sickness. The first test they did was pregnancy and my husband called his mom as soon as we found out. He asked her not to tell anyone just to be safe incase of a miscarriage risk (during first 3 months.). Well she immediately told everyone and news spread like wildfire.
Then I called my mom and the same thing happened. Our moms couldn't keep the secret we asked them to keep because they were so excited. I didn't show until I was 6-7 months. I don't think there's anyway of hiding pregnancy for me. I'm normally 5'2" and 85lbs. I'm very thin and my belly entered a room before I did. I don't know how your sil could hide her growing belly.
I usually tell my brothers and we sit there and discuss how bhabi pisses us off with her huggggggggggggggeeeeeeeee stomach when shes oohing and aahing and wobbling side to side infront of my dad, bros friends..man we ussed to get so embarrased.
( no disrespect to ladies with kids out there but i like a woman who can handle having a baby wihtout treatiung it like an illness and being to in your face with it). Anyways gandhi thats so cute..
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i dont think they were embarrased, its more like sharm o hayaa, i wudnt want to show off pregnancy either.
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i think its a beautiful thing, including the big stomach..i wouldn't run around in front of people with a huge stomach..or..u know do retarded things, but i think everything about it is beautiful. When my sister had the preggies, i used to touch her stomach, feel the baby kick and all..fun stuff
maybe ur bhaiyya n bhabhi didn’t felt there was no need to mention the “obvious”? they must’ve thought that you’d figure it out… it is really strange that during the course of the year u didn’t hear a word about the baby. i mean, generally expecting couples buy toys or clothes in preparation, i mean, there is some kind of happy hangama going on. i’m sure there were signs, maybe u just didn’t give them a second thought!
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