60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

Lifestyle Relationships
1

Received it as a fwd-mail … yeah … sometimes good stuff does come in it … so thought of sharing with you guys …

  1. Make her feel secure; (sakina- tranquility) QUIT BEING AGGRESSIVE

  2. When you go home say 'Assalamualaikum. ’ (Greetings) It kicks the shaitaan out of your home!

  3. Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) described the wife as a fragile vessel and said to take care of this vessel that’s fragile. Remember that there is goodness in this vessel so treat it gently.

  4. When you advise her, do so in privacy, in a peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBLIC as it’s a type of slandering.

  5. Be generous to your wife- it keeps her LOVED

  6. Move and let her have your seat. It will warm her heart.

  7. AVOID ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudu at all times. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said if you are angry, sit down, if you’re sitting, then lie down. Follow the sunnah!

  8. Look good and smell great for your wife. IT keeps the LOVE!

  9. Don’t be rigid. It will break you. Prophet Mohammed – sallallahu alaihi wa sallam (SAW means “May the blessings and the peace of Allah be upon him” (Muhammad).) said ‘I am the best amongst you and I am the best to my wife’. Being rigid and harsh will not bring you close to Allah and neither does it make you more of a man.

  10. Listen to your wife-BE a GOOD LISTENER

  11. YES to flattering NO to arguing. Arguing is like poison in a marriage. Al zawai said ‘When Allah (swt) wants evil for people He will leave them to argue amongst themselves’.

  12. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said to call your wives with the best name, any name she loves to hear. Prophet Mohammed sallallahu alaihi wa sallam called Aisha ‘ya Aish’ as an endearment.

  13. Give her a pleasant surprise. I.e. if she loves watermelon, bring her one out of the blue. It will grow the love in her heart.

  14. Preserve your tongue! Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said the tongue will throw people in the hell fire so watch what you say and how you say it!

  15. All of us have shortcoming. Accept her shortcoming and Allah (swt) will put barakat in your marriage.

  16. TELL her you appreciate her. SHOW her you appreciate her.

  17. Encourage her to keep good relation with her relative, her mum and dad etc.

  18. Speak with her with a topic of HER interest.

  19. In front of her relative praise her. Confirm/ realize that she is wonderful, and that she is a good person in front of her family.

  20. Give each other gifts. You will love each other more. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said gifts increases love.

.21. Get rid of the routine once in a while, surprise her with something, it will get rid of the rust and polish it!.

.22. Husnul zaan- We have a demand from Allah (swt) that we have to think good of people. Think good of your spouse..

.23. Ignore some of her mistakes- pretend you did not see/hear some of her small mistakes. It was a practice of Ali (RA). It’s like putting a hole in your memory. Don’t save it in your memory!.

.24. Increase the drops of patience, especially when she is pregnant or when she is on her monthly period. .

.25. Expect and respect her jealousy. Even Aisha (ra) used to get jealous. .

.26. Be humble. If your profession is good, respect that she is looking after your children, she is much more than you, she is the leader at home, her strength is your strength, and her success is your success..

.27. Don’t put your friends above your wife. .

.28. Help your wife at home. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam used to help his wives at home and he was the best of creation. He used to sew his own clothes..

.29. Help her respect your parents, you can’t force her to love them, but she can be helped to gradually love them. .

.30. Show your wife she is the ideal wife..

.31. Remember your wife in your duaas. It will increase the love and protect it..

.32. Leave the past. It brings nothing but pain and grief. It’s not your business. The past is for Allah (swt)..

.33. Don’t try to show her that you are doing her a favour by doing something, like buying food for the house, because in reality we are the courier of sustenance, not the providers, as Allah is the provider. It’s also a way of being humble and thankful to Allah (swt).

.34. Shaitaan is your enemy, not your wife. Sometime when husband and wife are talking a fight breaks out, then shaitaan is present there as a third person so he is the real enemy. It is not enough to hate the shaitaan, but you have to see him as an enemy as Allah has commanded. Shaitaan loves divorce. HE comes everyday and sits office and asks the devils what they have done, some say i have made a person steal, or i have made someone drink etc. And one devil will say i have made a man divorce his wife, and he is crowned as the one who has done the best job. .

.35. Take the food and put it in her mouth. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam taught us this. It’s a blessing. The food doesn’t just go to her stomach, but straight to her heart. It increases the love and mercy between you..

.36. Protect your wife from the evil of the shaitaan and mankind. She is like a precious pearl that needs protecting from the envy of human devils and shaitaan..

.37. Show her your smile. Smile at your wife. IT’S A CHARITY..

.38. Small problems/ challenges can become a big problem. Or if there is small thing she didn’t like and you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between you. Don’t ignore them as it can become big..

.39. Avoid being harsh hearted and moody. Allah said of prophet (saw) ‘if you were harsh hearted they (the companions) would have left you.’ It confirms prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam was not harsh hearted, so GET RID OF IT..

.40. Respect her thinking. It’s strength for you. Show you like her thoughts and suggestions..

.41. Help her to achieve her potential and help her to dig and find success within as her success is your success. .

.42. Respect the intimate relationship and its boundaries. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said she is like a fragile vessel and she needs to be treated tenderly. Sometime she may not be feeling well; you must respect and appreciate that feeling..

.43. Help her to take care of the children. Some men think it makes them appear less of a man but in fact it makes you appear a bigger man and more respected, especially in the sight of Allah (swt). .

.44. Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet talk her. Tell her she looks great, be an artist. Pick and choose gifts of the tongue. .

.45. Sit down and eat with her and share food with her. .

.46. Let her know you are traveling. Don’t tell her out of the blue as it’s against Islam. Tell her the date/ time of when you are coming back also. .

.47. Don’t leave the house as soon as trouble brews. .

.48. The house has privacy and secrecy. Once you take this privacy and secrecy to your friends and family you are in danger of putting a serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy stays home. Islam is against leaving them out like a garage sale for anyone to come and pick and choose..

.49. Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e. plan a trip for hajj or umrah together. It increases and strengthens the love when you help each other perform a good deeds together i.e, do tahajuud together,or go to a dars together etc. .

.50. Know her rights, not only written in paper but engraved in your heart and engraved in your conscious..

.51. Allah( swt) said ‘live with your wives in kindness.’ Treat them with kindness and goodness. It means in happy times and in sadness treat her with goodness and fairness. .

.52. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam showed that at the time of intimacy. Don’t jump on your wife like an animal! .

.53. When you have a dispute with your wife don’t tell everyone. It’s like leaving your wounds open to germs so be careful who you share your problems and disputes with. .

.54. Show your wife you really care for her health. Good health of your wife is your good health. To care for her health shows her that you love her. .

.55. Don’t think you are always right. No matter how good you are you have shortcomings. You are not perfect as the only one who was perfect in character was prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam Get rid of this disease..

.56. Share your problems, your happiness, and your sadness with her. .

.57. Have mercy on her weakness. Have mercy when she is weak or strong as she is the fragile vessel. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that your wife is a trust in your hand. .

.58. Remember you are her strength, someone to lean on in times of hardship. .

.59. Accept her as she is. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that women are created from the rib which is bent. If you try to straighten her you will break her (divorce). Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that you may dislike one habit in her but you will like another manner in her so accept her as she is. .

.60. Have good intention for your wife all the time, Allah monitors your intention and your heart at all times. Allah (s.w.t) said Among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

.

2

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife’s love

very beautiful! :k:

nice but i never invited CM to my home…good to know this would work though just in case

:stuck_out_tongue: joking CM bhaisaab :sara:

3

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife’s love

Nice sharing Farrah bibi :k:

4

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

lol @Nisha25

thanks dil bhai :D ...

5

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife’s love

lol Islamic ways to keep love :omg:

such hypocrisy - how to show and make love is common in all cultures, it has nothing to do with religion.

6

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife’s love

What’s hypocritical about that Firenze? :hmmm:

Yes many points above are common sense and belong to teachings from most religions if not all, but why must everything that has even a tinge of religion associated to it become a mockery?

7

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife’s love

Cool :k:

8

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife’s love

I so wish the hunters would come get this cat and put it in a circus.

Really informative post Farrah

Restored attachments:

128fs318181.gif

9

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife’s love

No body is making mockery of religion here. I am just stating an opinion.

10

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife’s love

:hug:

11

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

chalo aap is ko "60 ways to get and keep your wife's love" ki tor per perh lo .. love is part of every religion/culture .. and true that most of the points are rather universal ... but sometimes explaining things wrapped within your faith system helps you adopt them more readily and happily ... things are told by example of the people we love more (or most) thereby hoping for a more assured following.

12

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

Awe that's so sweet....thanks for sharing :)

13

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife’s love

Can you show me what exactly is making you believe its hypocritical that Islam teaches love for your spouse?

Right, but Im sure your opinion is based on something concrete isnt it?

14

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

Thank you for sharing this...:)

15

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife’s love

Niks I was just gonna say the same thing. Tell us Firenze :hmmm:

16

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

it's common sense, for example from op:

When you advise her, do so in privacy, Leave the past. It brings nothing but pain and grief, Help your wife at home ..etc..etc... to quote few. Why we have to put the label of religion on it, when every man in any culture & society understand it how to make wife happy and else.

17

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

^ not really. A lot of men don't have the slightest idea. In addition to that, the fact that it mentions how it was Sunnah and Mohammad SAW practiced the above might inspire some to do the same as well. These are trivial things that seem as 'common sense' but also commonly not practiced. Nothing wrong with reminders and using religion to reinforce these reminders from time to time.

18

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

I don't know why, I always realize my faults with relatively more intensity when my wife is away from me. It might not sound manly to few people, but the moment she leaves for her parent's house during vacations, I can't control the continuous flow of tears, and can't stop missing her. She realizes it from my voice every time she talks to me on cell phone. At times I feel really annoyed with myself for not valuing as much this beautiful gift & blessing of Allah (swt) as I should. May Allah (swt) strengthen the bond of all the couples and keep them together in this life and hereafter.

JazakAllah khair for sharing. I have saved it and would inshaAllah print it as a reminder. May Allah (Swt) bless you and your family with all the blessings of this life and hereafter.

19

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

Thanks for sharing farrah. =)
My dad brings my mum chicken all the time. lol I totally thought of them when I read no.13

20

Re: 60 Islamic ways to get and keep your wife's love

Great!

Some points may need to be tweeked, but liked the message you brought up. :)

Thanks you for sharing. Bravo!