Re: 6 Months
My aunty told the other woman that my youngest daughter (the girl this woman is interested in for her son) doesn’t know how to cook etc at all. She said it is fine, cooking can be learnt, I can teach her. It sounds hypocritical to me, that for the other girl, it was a big enough issue for divorce - but for this girl, it isn’t, cooking can be learnt?
I say trust your gut. If your intuition is telling you that something’s off, then pass on this rishta. I, too, would be wary of a rishta where the previous marriage ended quickly. Unless it was some extreme situation that resulted in a divorce so quickly, it reads as a red flag to me…and one where you should proceed with caution. Not knowing how to cook is not an extreme situation. Cooking can be learned and it’s a skill that develops over time. As for being modern…well…they must have known that former girl was “modern” before the marriage. As for the cursing…generally speaking…Desi kids are brought up to respect their elders…even the most modern among them. I don’t condone cursing at the MIL or any elder person; it turns me off even when done among peers, etc. But, it DOES take 2 hands to clap. It makes me wonder that how “far” were one’s buttons pushed by the other person for them to have to lose control of their anger and resort to cursing. That’s another thing to consider.
Had the aunti said that her son and former DIL would frequently argue and there was a lack of compromise…even that I could understand. But to throw in the towel after just 6 months? I dunno…
Sounds strange. The girl can talk to aunti’s son to get a feel for things. She can ask him all the questions you’ve asked right now. OR…the girl’s mother can ask the aunti…“Well, my daughter is also a modern working woman that does not know how to cook…so if it didn’t work out with the former one…then I don’t think my own daughter would be a good match.” Let’s see what guy’s mom has to say about that.