^ aha sarah good point, so marrying an old hag will not bother you at the beginning since all the honeymoon crap is in the head.. but later down the road when you are growing mature, it'd be bothersome for women.
I can't talk for the 20 year old who married a 35-40 year old, only she can relate her experience. But if a guy is in his late 30s or 40s and has NEVER been married or close to it--I'm sorry but thats warning signals right there. (widow/divorce is a different story).