I hear this time and time again from righteous muslims - To help the women who are widowed, suffering etc.etc, etc
http://www.thenews.com.pk/top_story_detail.asp?Id=1423
Why doesn’t someone marry her them from amongst you. For Allah’s sake why does’nt someone marry her and save her and the kids.
Are you muslims in name only, not deeds. (I am so angry/sad/frustrated & write this with tears in my eyes)
Re: 4 wives are allowed for a reason.
GIRLS LISTEN UP
It is so important to get an education first ly, and then secondly, a job where you can gain useful skills and marketable skills.
Then if you decide you can marry. And limit the number of kids to two or three. Because you never know what will happen to your mate. You must always be prepared and education and job and having a job while married ensures your future to earn and not be dependent on getting some man or desperate for some man, or have society's pity on you should you become a widow with young ones.
Re: 4 wives are allowed for a reason.
Nobodies forcing the women uberalles, we can have up to four wives, if he can fulfill the financial obligations for all of them and treat them equally n keep them happy, if we can't do that than we can't have em.
Anyways growing up without a father can really mess with some kids.
Re: 4 wives are allowed for a reason.
Hello Afridi,
Before you take on the 4 wives adventure, maybe you have missed the following verses.
"You shall hand over to the ORPHANS* their rightful properties. Do not substitute the bad for the good, and do not consume their properties by combining them with yours. This would be a gross injustice. If you fear that you will not be equitable towards the ORPHANS*, then you may marry their mothers. You may marry two, three, or four. If you fear lest you become unfair, then you shall be content with only one, or with what you already have. Additionally, you are thus more likely to avoid financial hardship." (Quran4:2-3)
"They consult you concerning women: say, "Allah enlightens you regarding them, as recited for you in the scripture. The mothers of ORPHANS* that you wish to marry but do not give them their due dowries, you shall be just. The rights of young boys must also be protected. You shall treat the orphans equitably. Whatever good you do, Allah is fully aware thereof." (Quran 4:127)
Any reader of the above verse does not have to be a genius to understand that polygamy is CONDITIONAL that a person wants to be equitable towards the ORPHANS!. Not that you are wealthy and think can do justice.
After the rules in which polygamy is allowed, see more restrictions in the Quran:
"You can never be equitable in dealing with more than one wife, no matter how hard you try. Therefore, do not be so biased as to leave one of them hanging. If you correct this situation and maintain righteousness, GOD is Forgiver, Most Merciful." (Quran 4:129)
Under these circumstances it becomes very clear how Allah's perfect system will be a shield for children who have lost their fathers and need protection in this world, rather than a license for sexual fantasies as most are led to believe.
cheers!
Re: 4 wives are allowed for a reason.
I think the debate here should be why cannot she be dealt the proper justice. And yes someone should step up and marry her for the sake of protection. However lets not forget women have a role to play in this as much as men. Should a man even think about doing this for the sake of Allah I'm sure the way todays women are they would make his life a living hell because they themselves do not realize the pleasing Allah SWT should be a higher priority in their lives then their husbands. Marriage as it is thought today is not only about loving each other endlessly. This notion blinds todays women, even ones with good religious knowledge and conviction.