what do think. a married man with 2 kids above 33, dont want to be seperated from his parents, is living with his parents because his wife left him with her children as her dad got a heart attack n there was nobody else to support her parents family…
did she did right?
now the guy is having no job, no money and still is sooooooo arrogant and bossy that he treats her wife like his servant while talking to her n stuff
whereas shes the only one taking care of the children and herself while living serving her parents!!!
shall they be together again! should she go for divorce?
Looks like the guy is just failing to grow up and handle the responsibilty of being married. Wonder why he did in the first place, you are saying that they have kids so means that the wedding is a little old. How was he before?
Oh alright, just curious if they are married for four years and she was having trouble with his behaviour and attitude then why is she considering divorce right now?
Did he not have a job when they got married?
In any case, i got two things in my mind, number one is the girl’s father any better?
number two does the girl feel too oppressed in this marriage that she could consider divorce?
If so she has to think that she has kids, not many people these days marry divorcee with kids. Is she qualified so she can support her kids after she gets divorced and get a job? Is she willing to risk it that there is a chance hardly any good rishta will come for her because she is divorced with kids?
well u can go to a marriage counsling thing( or whtever these places r called) and they do try to save ur marriage.....u can gt some help and info..and ur hubby can listen to these ppl...
u can also involve a third person ..to sort it out....somene highly respectd in ur family..koi barda banda...anyne u can trust...
and thn go for a divorce...dnt jump into conclusions...its nt easy
korn..how did ur friend get hooked up with hthis guy(arranged/lov marrg)?..what is his background?..id like to know..his traits n stuff before marriage..
this is wat i hate about men once a girl is married there are no responsibilities on her as a daughter,its just sick when tum apna farz nibha rahay ho betay hona ka to is per bhi koi farz hai beti honay ka
This person isn't treating his wife and children properly. But this 'living with his parents' tag isn't necessary as it isn't a crime to live with your parents as long as sabh ke haqooq purey karo.
I know what this girl is going through. My friend was also in a similar situation. She not her husband was taking care of everything. She was taking care of parent's, running the household and going to work. Her husband was arrogant/immature and did not take any responsibilities for anything. He argued every moment he got and never helped his wife with anything. Instead, he would ignore her pleas for help and advise her on how to do things differently by getting a better paying job. My friend had a nervous breakdown and that's when it hit her. She realized what she had to do.
It's not so easy in this situation as there are children involved. Although, she seems to be mananging everything on her own which is reason enough to question what the need of such a husband is. After 4yrs of marriage and children being involved I would encourage professional counselling before making any decision.
I think he needs to realise her worth. Seems like he is taking her for granted. Does he get to see the kids whenever he feels like? Or how is that arangement?
growing up is essential for men and women. in this case, the best thing the wife can do is separate from husband until he matures. hopefully he will.
he has obviouly, some growing up to do.
being a man a age 30 + requires being able to take on the relationship that person is to build, seriously.
when he is unable to fulfill his role, he is bound to feel frustrated and be aggressive towards the least harmful target - which in this case is his mature and responsive spouse.
being immature does not give any man the right to feel capable of hurting anyone who has a relationship with him - from his parents to his spouse.
he has to make his own behavior better on his own. he can seek help and make some use of it, only if he is willing to respect and regard that offered help, as a blessing.
his wrong sense of pride and for taking for granted sort of attitude will eventually render him isolated and resented.
the choice is his to make.
