I'm 31 and unmarried. I need to hear some positive stories about girls that found someone at this age! Deep down I feel that I'm not married because the right person for me has not come forward, I have always done istikhara for every rishta that has come, so I don't regret saying no to anyone or anyone saying no to me.
I look about 25. I have someone who keeps asking for my rishta but he's 22. He's very religious and says that age or looks have nothing to do with a long term marriage. They've been asking for 3 years. I do like him and we get on so well.
So uplifting stories about 30's brides please!
I have a friend in Pak who got married to her cousin in her early twenties. That marriage was a very very very very short-lived one as there were some petty problems between the two families.
My friend is educated and attractive but for MANY years......she had problems getting remarried. Some of this had to do with the malicious wagging tongues of the muhally walay. Whenever a rishta would come.....the neighbors would tell the prospective families that my friend is divorced and this would deter things from going forward.
Recently my friend got married to a guy....whom I hear.......is about 3-4 years YOUNGER than her (She'll be turning 30 this year)...............and MashaAllah she's very happy. Her parents are very happy, they've had to endure a very difficult time since their daughter's divorce. My friend's in-laws are very loving and accepting of her. I came back from Pak yesterday and I'm glad that she's happy and settled. In the grand scheme of things...........the ages of the two individuals don't matter much if they're content. :)
I hope that you find this true story to be an uplifting one, Zara. You will find guys who are the same age as you and older.................but they could be VERY IMMATURE or incompatible. You might have friends/cousins that are several years younger than you that you get along with BETTER THAN people that are closer to your age. In the end, it's about compatibility. Perhaps this guy will prove to be a better husband than one who is closer to your age or older. And it seems to me that you really like/care for this guy.................because if you didn't.....................you wouldn't have bothered to create a thread about the issue. The reason you're seeking "uplifting" stories is because you want hope that things will work out. And to me this shows that you're interested in the possibility of you n him.
My advice is that you do Istikhara.......and if this guy has consistently shown that he's mature........if he's given you no reason to be wary of him......then go for it. Tell him to bring his parents over to your home. If he's serious about you......he'll do this. If you KNOW that you both get along well......then don't let age get in the way.