Re: 30 and Still Working on A Bachelors Degree
there is no age for education...ever!
these guys realized now that there is nothing ahead in life for them unless they have an educational background, it is a good trait in them i would say. Better late than never. they have the ability of being confident to study at 30 with youngtsers because they know it is all for a better life.
consider them if it is a rishta
Re: 30 and Still Working on A Bachelors Degree
There are two categories. The guys who had to deal with poverty, and immigration later in their life. I get that. I get that if you come to this country at 16, you're entering high school halfway. You have to work on your language, sometimes. You have to adapt to a new system, that is way different than Pakistan. There is no "tuition" sessions here. Your family tries to do your assignments for you? Great, good luck, that will eventually come back to haunt you.
And so these people may take longer than 4 years to complete an undergraduate degree in this country, because they have to work at the same time to support their family, and they're always playing catch up in their skills. Sometimes, people from Pakistan are way ahead of the game when they come here, but sometimes they're not (esp if they're the folks that are used to having their smart cousin doing their assignments for them in Pakistan - that I've seen first hand and it's honestly just sad that these kids go to school with assignments done for them by family). You don't learn any real skills that way, then you go to school in America, and all that you are able to do is join community college, and start all over with basic math and english classes at the age of 19, which is sad, because there are people who can do all that at the age of 10!!!
Then you have another group of guys - the ones who grew up HERE. And who sat through public school, and hung out with the wrong crowd, and came home, and didn't listen to mom, and didn't do their homework. Got C's in class. Got disciplinary problems because of their ABCD status confusion. Do I act like a real muslim at school or do I act like the cool guy and be a douchebag? Do I look cool to my homies?
These kids, because of a poor sense of identity, poor reinforcement from home (fat ol' amma jee says "oh jeeeeee yeh mera betaaaaaa haiiiii, mera putttaarrrrrrrrrr, Allah Mian, let him do whatever he wants to do. Oh he's screwing the neighbor's cute underage white daughter? Oh that's great, that's why Allah endowed my son with the beautiful scrawny brown body he has) --> just do poorly at school.
Then you meet them at 30, and they're STILL IN COLLEGE.
PCG- figure out what the root cause is, be wary if it's with any below
Motivation
Ability to commit
How much is education really valued
Choices/decision making
Pardon my bluntness but you are an achiever, and need to be with one. If someone had huge obstacles and simply could not go to college that is understandable. If they went a route where college was not needed and they did other things to be successful, that's fine too.
If it was just not a priority, they could have done it, chose not to, and now are in some lame ass college in some mediocre program, that has trouble written all over it.
Re: 30 and Still Working on A Bachelors Degree
PCG, unfortunately not everyone falls under those two categories.