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First, ask the girl directly why u weren't invited. If its not a nice reason, return the gift to the shop, then take a good real friend out to dinner with you and have a nice time.
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Women!
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o yar bacchi hai.. go easy guys
You can send the gift to her. That way she could still have it. And then you wouldn’t have to go to her home uninvited. From what I understand, you do have contact with her once in a while. That can be enough too for friendship.
It’s better to have friends that give you space to breathe, instead of friends who want to be with you too often. Personally, I like to see friends once or twice in every one or two years. It’s when they break the contact completely without telling me why, when I don’t like it. If people don’t want contact, it’s oké, but they should at least give a reason. But your friend hasn’t broken contact without giving you a reason. You still are friends, as long as you have contact with each other once or twice in every one or two years.
It reminds me of a Pakistani family friend. Nice lady, but too sticky. This you will find creepy and then you will be happy with your friend:
I have sent her salaam through my mother a few times. Then later, I also sent her many times salaam and Eid wishes via her daughters email. For me, that is contact. That is enough. I didn’t visit her often. The last few years I didn’t go to anyone. But she is the only Pakistani nonrelative, whom I have been sending salaam via email regularly. So for me that is contact. Yet, when we met a few times, she kept saying “you have forgotten me, you don’t care about me, because you don’t call me and you don’t visit me” 
These comments irritated me a lot, because if I didn’t care about her and had really forgotten her, then why the hell would I send her salaam every year via email? She also kept saying, you must visit me, you **must **call me, you have to come.
Those kind of sticky friends are just creepy. I hope this will help you to see the difference between your friend and mine. (I still consider her a friend, even though I was so annoyed I told her I wanted no more contact)
Your friend is normal. She isn’t too sticky, she doesn’t want to be with you too often, she gives you time to breathe. I think in her own way she probably does care about you.
Your post has reminded me of something that made me very sad.
I had a friend, whom I cared about a lot. She wasn't a Pakistani, but a Muslim from Surinam. I liked her so much. Last time we met, was in my place. We spent some time together, everything was ok. Then she didn't contact me for years. I would like my friends to contact me once in one or two years. We don't necessarily have to be together, even a line or some sort of message, even one word "hey" or "salaamu alaikum" would be nice. That's it. But from her I heard nothing at all. So I called her, maybe she was in trouble, I was even getting worried. Then her boyfriend answered the phone and told me she was oké and out with her friends. (please don't judge her, oké, she's been living together with a Hindu boyfriend, but it's her life and she knows how I feel about it and after I understood I would still be a fine Muslima, even if I would still be her friend in that situation, it was oké between us)
I felt sad. I think the fact that I was worried for nothing also got to me. Anyway, I was sad, because I was thinking, in all those years, she hasn't once answered any message of me, while the last time she was in my home, we had a nice time, everything was oké now and all I wanted was, to hear from her or receive even one line from her, that she was oké, or even one word. But obviously I wasn't that important to her. I had been worrying about her for nothing, while for her I was apparently nothing, because she had time for everyone else, but no time to let me know, once in a year, or once in two years even, that she was oké.
For me, she was the sister I have never had. I didn't know her for many years, just a few. But she got in my heart, after a few times talking to each other, it was as if I knew her all my life. I cared so much about her. I was always so worried about her. It just made me cry to realise I was nothing to her, she could have told me, that she didn't want to be my friend anymore. That would have been sad too, but at least I would have known in time that I was nothing to her and then I wouldn't have worried about her for nothing. I would have known that she was oké and that the only reason she didn't contact me anymore, was because I meant nothing to her. When she was here, she never gave me the slightest hint that she didn't care for me. We were fine. She should have told me instead of letting me get worried, she knew I worried about her.
Is that what you felt for your friend? I know the situation isn't exactly the same. At least, your friend did contact you once in a while. But still, who am I to tell you what to feel? Who am I to tell you how to handle this situation, I who couldn't even handle mine and was so sad about it!
Often I "know" how people should take care of their problems, I say all kinds of things so they feel much better, I give them advice sometimes, it even works a lot of times. Yet, my own life wasn't without problems or sadness.
Who am I to tell you anything?
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The way you ^ write okay (oké) always throws me off. But its cute :-)
yeah well i gave her the presesnt
she wouldnt take it and said no i dont want it
i said u have 2 i bought it 4 u so here TAKE IT
so she did & yes she also said thx
but i read her face it was full of guilt
and i just wanted 2 thx all of u guys
i noe how u feel
but dats not how i felt 4 her tho
but it just kinda made me realize that i wasnt much important 2 her
any ways
but i had a online friend who i really cared 4 and we were so close just lyk u guys and i felt as if i new him 4ever
we were best freinds i use 2 be there 4 him whn he fought wit his girlfrnd
and i always got woried if he didnt come online or sumthin
but later i found out that most of wut he told me was just lies
and den i slowly stopped talking 2 him
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Listen beta
Don't feel bad. And don't give her the gift, it will only make her feel bad. What would be a difference between you two then. Plus, obviously she doesn't feel as strongly towards you as you do towards her. Making her feel bad by giving her the gift won't make any change in how she feels about you.....
Year from now you won't even remember her name. Next time be careful picking your friends.
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umm i already gave her the gift