Great idea, mcpendo. You should not have babies. I agree.
Oohps.....I had forgotten about THAT point! Little Pendos running around.........
Pendu, I think it's good for the world that you have made the bold decision to embark upon the difficult journey of celibacy. More power to you!
Re: 2010 and still people contemplating marriage?
I think you've misunderstood me, i am going to get married myself no doubt:D! All i was saying that what other people thought? You can't really think that a man can live without a girl in these times? But i digress i really like chocolate!
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"Marriage is half the deen". I'll leave it up to you to figure out the exact meaning of this.
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Huma i agree with you for the God said " They (women) are a garment unto you and ye are a garment unto them" and the Prophet said,
"Marry that ye may multiply; for i will vaunt you against all other nations on the day of resurrection, even in respect of the still born." But here is how i see this, Some sufis hold marriage to be desirable as a means of quelling lust, and acquisition to be desirable as a means of freeing the mind from anxiety. Others say that its merely for procreation. The Prophet said, "*Women are married for four things, wealth, nobility, beauty and religion. *And he also said "*Satan is with the solitary."
*There are however evils to both marriage and celibacy. The evils of marriage are two 1) Preoccupation of the mind with other than God, 2) the distraction of the body for the sake of sensual pleasure. And with celibacy 1) The neglect of an apostolic tradition. 2) Feelings of lust in the heart and the dangers of falling into unlawful ways.
A very famous sufi once said "*O Lord God, Thou hast mingled lust with Adam's clay in order that the world may be populated, and Thou in Thy knowledge hast willed that i should have this intercourse." *I will elaborate what this means and whether the prophet preferred marriage or celibacy. In our time it is impossible for anyone to have a suitable wife, whos wants are not excessive and whos demands are not unreasonable. Therefore i say that a man should be celibate because it is said *"The best of men in latter days will be those who are light of back." *Meaning that those who dont have any children or wives. (Now again this does not mean that i wont get married, but keep reading).
So it is in my opinion that the best and most excellent among men and women are the celibate ones because their hearts are uncontaminated and their natures are not inclined to sins and lusts. The vulgar in their arguments say that the prophet loved three things in this world were scent, women, and prayer. So because the prophet loved women therefore marriage must be excellent than celibacy. The prophet also loved poverty and jihad. So if he professed marriage then celibacy was his spiritual combat. Again it is agreed that *A woman was the cause of the first calamity that took Adam out of paradise. And also of the first quarrel that happened in this world(Cain and Able) The punishment that was inflicted upon two angles Harut and Marut. And the list goes on and on:D (Note women are not evil in my eyes im just saying that ok this happened im more like Fox news here). *
Now IMO there is no flame of lust that cannot be extinguished by effort, because you are in control of the instrument that guide to towards it and thus with self mortification anyone can eliminate any desire. Again a man is never ruined marriage or by celibacy, but the mischief that consists in his mind that leads him/her off of the path.
Re: 2010 and still people contemplating marriage?
You want to quote the Prophet, then you should probably take his advice and act like a better human being to begin with.
You can start by being more respectful and nicer around here.
Re: 2010 and still people contemplating marriage?
^ Oh ladee freakin' da look whos talking!
Re: 2010 and still people contemplating marriage?
Mcp, u have lassi! Now let us all have our rooh afza, pakola, anar juice! winks
It is too late for me. 
I have been married for 18 years and do not regret a single moment. 