2 kids in my son's class telling him he is not muslim

[dosa_chick]

they are his friends, well sort of, because there are only 4 boys in the class, and my son like these two boys. They told him couple of times you are not muslim bc your mom doesnt wear hijab, 6 YEARS OLD FREA***G KIDS.

So my son ask me one day mommy if we are muslim how come you are not waering hijab, I was stunned at his question (usually I dont know what to say right away) I asked him why, he told me my friends tell me that your mom doesnt wear hijab and she wears pants so she is not muslim thus you are not muslim.

me: I asked him about my cousins and his phopos and nani dadi, and if he thinks they are muslim
he: said yes
me: I asked why does he think they are
he: he said because they do namaz, they only eat halal, and do roza (and few other things)
me: I asked him do I do 5 times namaz and all you told me about other women in the family
he: yes
me: so then how am I different from them
he:he said BUT my friends tell me so

so I told him probably they dont know that just by wearing hijab and wearing shalwar qameez people dont become muslim, I re-iterated 5 arkaan and said anybody who believe in these things are muslim . I told him good muslim is one who does not judge because that is Allahji’s job.

My poor boy had to digest all this info.

What else I need to do?? this already happened twice, and one they told my son that we will come to your house because you eat haram food.

I am thinking next time this happens I will speak to the teacher??? and ask her to have a talk with class about this kind of stuff, not particularity muslim-non-muslim more about judging other and personal attacks??

talk about biases and garbage that parents put in kids minds at such early age. Here I am killing myself teaching my son respect all, be honest, be considerate etc and then this kind of stuff happens.

Please comments/suggestions???

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[Sara516]

Re: 2 kids in my son’s class telling him he is not muslim

Ouch

Is this an Islamic school?
Only thing I can think of is the parents feeding him this garbage. Which…is very sad.
and if you eat only halal, how do they think, you eat haram?

[Royal_Gala]

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It’s true this behavior is a reflection of some fine parenting!!! I feel sad for your son Last year my husband’s nephew (8 years old) told my daughter (3 years old) that she shouldn’t be wearing dresses with bare legs and he’s very un-comfortable? and actually went up to my husband and said it again, my husband just told him that every family is different and he is okay with his daughters wearing dressing and showing their legs and if he is that un-comfortable he can cover his eyes

[Chaachi]

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Sumtyms its not the parents feeding garbage but rather kids get the picture wrong.
Mayb those kids have only interacted wid muslim women and families who eat halal and wear hijab. So they drew the conclusion that if one doesnt eat halal n wear hijab thn they r not muslim.

[redvelvet]

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@Sara516

Ouch

Is this an Islamic school?
Only thing I can think of is the parents feeding him this garbage. Which…is very sad.
and if you eat only halal, how do they think, you eat haram?

Kids are not going to see that logic. They will assume that since a classmate’s mommy doesn’t wear hijab, then the family must not adhere to other basic rules.

[redvelvet]

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Op, talk to the teacher and request that she do a class discussion without mentioning the names if the kids bugging your child. If the problem still persists, talk to the kids’ parents.

[Muzna]

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@redvelvet

Op, talk to the teacher and request that she do a class discussion without mentioning the names if the kids bugging your child. If the problem still persists, talk to the kids’ parents.

I would encourage the same.
This matter needs to be addressed at a classroom level.

[Iconoclast]

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Talk to their mom.

[dosa_chick]

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@Sara516

Ouch

Is this an Islamic school?
Only thing I can think of is the parents feeding him this garbage. Which…is very sad.
and if you eat only halal, how do they think, you eat haram?

sorry dear guppans i was not able to get back to you guys.

no it is a public school, I dont know how do they think we eat haram, if my son is eating chicken sandwich how would they know if it is halah not not, you know what I mean.

I guess it is all about what they hear at home from their parents. The def of a muslim woman probably included hijab or burqa type of things that I dont wear. Who knows.

[dosa_chick]

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@redvelvet

Kids are not going to see that logic. They will assume that since a classmate’s mommy doesn’t wear hijab, then the family must not adhere to other basic rules.

I know who to say if I dont wear hijab then we dont eat halah, and do saum and salat.

[dosa_chick]

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@redvelvet

Op, talk to the teacher and request that she do a class discussion without mentioning the names if the kids bugging your child. If the problem still persists, talk to the kids’ parents.

thats what I did, I talked to the teacher without mentioning the names, and she had a talk with the class regarding respect and other character traits regarding such situations.

[dosa_chick]

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@Iconoclast

Talk to their mom.

I dont know their moms, there are 3 other moms in my son’s class I am good friends with them but their mothers are are not in them. May be I will start small talk with them to get a feeling what kind of family/people they are, I only know what I over heard their conversations with others and physical appearance, and I usually dont make up 100% image of a person based on these two. Lets see…

I didnt discuss this with my other friends whos kids are in my son’s class I didnt want this issue to become a label for those kids.

[TLK]

Which country are you in dosa?

[Lusi]

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@dosa_chick

I dont know their moms, there are 3 other moms in my son’s class I am good friends with them but their mothers are are not in them. May be I will start small talk with them to get a feeling what kind of family/people they are, I only know what I over heard their conversations with others and physical appearance, and I usually dont make up 100% image of a person based on these two. Lets see…

I didnt discuss this with my other friends whos kids are in my son’s class I didnt want this issue to become a label for those kids.

You should talk to the teachers or school admin. Don’t Ignore!

[dosa_chick]

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@TLK

Which country are you in dosa?

canada TLK bhai..

[dosa_chick]

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@Lusi

You should talk to the teachers or school admin. Don’t Ignore!

I already did…i am trying to gather from my conv. with my son to determine if this is still going on but havent heard anything negative, so I hope it is resolved now but it did get this thought in my son’s head that he has to prove he is a muslim to others. Even thgouh we have told his coupld of times ke everyone who is muslim is for Allah and we pray/fast and all other essentials for Allah and not for other people, but what do you do with a young mind. So we are keeping eyes and ears open…