My wedding is next year (I’a) so I have plenty of time to think about wedding plans. I was thinking of having a 2 day wedding instead of the standard 3 days. Have one combined Mendhi day and one reception day with Ruksati the same day. Would this be totally apalling? Its just a thought. I have a very busy job and so does my fiance and I think 3 days are just too hectic for us. Also I live in NY but I have family in Pakistan so I would like opinions from everyone since I heard weddings in Pakistan can be almost a week.
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I see alot of ppl doing that lately, have the mehndi + nikkah on one night, and the barat/rukhsati/reception the next day. Or they have a "valima" on the third day but its very low key.
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i think its a great idea and a super cost-cutting tip too!
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hey i'ld like to kno if there are people who've had this.. also since the guy is my family i think it can work for me since we have relatives in common but i dont know if i want to give up another day of dressing up, pictures, photoshoot and all...
I know couples that had the mehndi on one day and the wedding/valima on the next day. For one couple, they had their wedding in the morning and provided everyone with lunch and then later that night was the valima. For another couple, they had the wedding/reception together and the families split the cost of the one event.
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i have always been confused as to wot time the walima is meant to happen. i always thought it was meant to be after the wedding wen the couple have become one (not necessary meanin they have had sex) bt then after sum research i found ders so many views on wen it cn be held... is any proper time for it?
bt then all the bengali weddings i have been to they all do the wedding and walima on one day and spit the cost!
and all pakis do the walima on a complete seprate day after the wedding!
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back in pak i have seen many people do walima n mehndi on one day, for instance walima lunch in afternoon n mehndi in evening n then barat next day 
surely u r going to tke a few days/weeks of from work for ur weding arre u not?
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I would have loved to have a 2 day wedding. I wanted to combine the nikkah/rukhsati + valima in one day, but my fiance wanted two separate events...sigh
I never understood the concept of walima. Why celebrate the "consumation" of a marriage? I just don't get that.
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My friend did this. She married her cousin so most of the guests both of their families knew and it would have been the exact same people at the valima.. They had a combined mehndi and the next day was the nikah/baraat/reception. And as someone said before, it's cost cutting too since they paid for everything half/half.
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I think it's a great idea. I know someone who's having a 2 wedding this winter..they only have to focus on 2 functions and make it so much more lavish...as mehndi costs a lot of money..so you can combine the mehndi and the rukhsati. You ll save a lot of money and stess. Go for it.
there was a thread on this: http://www.paklinks.com/gs/culture-literature-linguistics/179191-barat-valima-merged.html#post6640324
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i love the idea. My bro got married this way and so will my sis.
bro had a very very low key valima with just two-three families.
I'd recommend this to everyone.
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well not going into the technicalities in terms of religion (i know its allowed and so im not worrying abt that) i was just wondering if its a good idea to cut down on a day . like u know would YOU want to do it? have less days ,clothes, fun etc . On the other hand, u can have two really lavish functions.. what do u guys think , which ones better?
most of the weddings i have been to have been 3 or more days...to be honest apart from the mendhi all the other events were boring because the bride and groom made their entrance, people ate took pics with the couple and went home...all the couples had the nikkah at home with less than 10 people present so the guests didnt even get to see that.
i would prefer two days of real quality, fun filled and entertaining events. the mendhi with all the appropriate rasams plus games etc. i would combine the nikkah/walimah to have the nikkah in front of the guests, followed by speeches/ poems and sehra then dinner and after dinner entertainment (qawwali). on top of this i would have live music, comedian, dood pilai, joota chupai, cutting the cake, exchange of rings and sum other ideas i have up my sleeve...i would go all out on decor, dress, jewelry, favours, food etc.
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And i'd like to say that cut off mehndi and do Nikkah/rukhsati and then walima the next day...
As acc to Islam Walima is a func that guys side is suppose to do anyway......
If u can't afford more than two func i'd suggest go for barat and valima..
Went to a wedding where they didn't have any mehndi.. not even barat. They just did a Nikkah with few relatives... lil rukhsati type.. And a Grand Walima.we were from guys side...
salaams,
i am in a similar situation myself, I am having a small mehndi function about 10 to 15 people in my home, i managed to get hold of some nice mehndi thaals but don't know what to do for the mehndi, i don't know many rasams and im going to have my mehndi applied by a mehndi artist on the night and have someone do some on the guests. but my house isn't that big and i dont know what else to do to make it exciting? what are you supposed to put on the thaals? my nikkah is going to be a really small ceremony too with just immediater family about 10 people.. and have a big walima. are there any rasams perfored at nikkah? someone said something about milk???
im so stressed and confused..
well on my 'mendhi' i wont be having any singing or dancing, were going to have khatam-ul-qur'an first then durood sharif followed by mehfil-e-naat. my friends have beautiful voices and recite naats with duffs. after dinner i will have my friends tie flower gajre on my wrists, then the mehdhi artist will do my mendhi. i also want party games as a substitute for dancing.
the nikkah/walimah will involve my shaykh doing a khutbah in english on marriage, plus tilawat, naat and poems/sehra. there are really good muslim comedians around like those of 'Allah made me funny'. the 'live' music will be the qawwal playing soft qawwali tunes. all will be segregated with a projector on the ladies side so they can see whats going on.