Re: 18 and marriage?
My younger brother is 18 years old. Few years ago, he was a troubled teenager always getting himself into trouble, and then he went to an Islamic school and completely changed his life around. When I say change, I mean living his life completely according to Islam. Ofcourse this has made him into a better person, but there is very few people who he associates with because he no longer speaks to female cousins, friends etc. and his old friends are no longer his good friends anymore due to him being that way. I am happy for him because he now seems content with his life rather than before
Currently he is residing is another country because he went to a boarding Islamic school to become an aalim. He calls me often and says he wants to get married and he is dead-on serious. My Dad is not the type to stop us from doing what we want and he prefers marriage at young age for both girls and guys so he isn’t against the idea but doesn’t really take my brother seriously because he is only 18. I am basically the guardian for my younger brothers because my Mum is mentally ill. I can convince and get my brother married if I wanted to, but I don’t want that because he is 18, he has no income, he has only completed his grade 10 so far. I’m also afraid that this may be just a “faze” for him and he might get over it and then not want this for himself anymore.
My family went through the same phase…one of my cousins after having starting his bachelors in business admin, suddenly moved towards religious studies and started the crap like…meray kwaif pooray karain, islamically i am elligible to marry and should have been married. he is 27 now and still unmarried as …no decent parents will agree to marry their daughter with someone who doesnt earn himself .