10,000 kee balian ya kangen

[Mrs.Shikra]

Re: 10,000 kee balian ya kangen

i mean if a person can afford it...phir why not :p

[Sajalina]

Re: 10,000 kee balian ya kangen

Yes if you can afford it why not.
Wese bhi you only get married once.
I believe in having big nice weddings
not to show off but to celebrate your day.

If one likes nice, elegent, expensive things
does that automatically make them a materialistic?

Does spending money on luxury means you are a show off?
Ofcourse there are people who do it to show off but then
there are others who do it for their own happiness.

Fine let's have a simple wedding but then will we also
settle for a simple/small house or a car? Simple inexpensive clothes?
If there is no point on spending money on a big wedding then there shouldn't be any point in having other luxuries. After all we are only in this world temporarily.

I rest my case and hope noone is offended. :)

[Sara516]

Re: 10,000 kee balian ya kangen

THANK YOU !!!

@somegroovychick

well, i’m offended- we had a really nice wedding. we spent quite a bit of money relative to everything else in our lives. we had around 100 guests and we did splurge on the food, the location, the flowers, our venue, the musicians, the invitations - and i don’t consider us unislamic for doing so. i consider us human beings who were happy to celebrate a really imporant day in our lives.

we didnt get married to prove to people that we know how to spend money or that we know how to throw a party- we got married because we loved one another and we had a wedding because we wanted to celebrate our union together. every bride and groom has the right to get married as they will without people imposing their own views and throwing water all over their celebrations and excitement. if you’re such a great judge of people and can already tell that their wedding is simply for the sake of show, then why attend? if you walk in and see that show and you’re so freakin’ disapproving of it, then leave. i’m sure you’d be the bigger person for standing by your own principles, right?

its one things to have an opinion of how YOU would do things, and thats fine, but ts an entirely other thing to force this opinion on people and criticise their personal choices in favour of your own, not to mention rude. nobody on here is going to tell me my wedding was needlessly extravagant or that i should have better used that money for charity- charity has its own time and place, and personal celebrations have theirs. and how on earth can you assume that charity is missing from our lives or our wedding day simply by attending our wedding?

and WHY does this whole charity thing only appear during weddings? if you live in a house thats more than 1 bedroom, than i think you’re being extravagant because there are lots of people in africa who live in NO BEDROOM houses. oh no! so by your logic, you’re being wasteful, and you need to give up your other three bedrooms and spend all that money you save on charity. and stop driving when you could give all that gas money to charity and use transit instead.

sorry, ladies, but this topic and how often it keeps recurring just ticks me off. i really don’t think its up to anyone to dictate how someone else should or should not celebrate, especially since you don’t know their true motives and just assuming something, especially something negative, isn’t cool.

we had a great wedding MA and IA our marriage will also be great, and neither one of us regrets for one second the money we spent. it was a special day and it deserved special treatment. if you can afford it, and if you want to, then you have every right to have your own special day. and if you can’t afford it, and you still want to, then you still have every right to have your special day at whatever cost you think is reasonable, even if you’re in debt afterwards, because its a personal choice.

as for the $10,000 baliyan, well if i could afford them, i would buy them for myself. and i would greatly enjoy wearing them, i’m sure. but no, i wouldn’t force my husband to purchase them for me, nor would i go into debt for them.

[fazeelat]

Re: 10,000 kee balian ya kangen

well, personally i like imitation jewelery (but dont wear it), gold designs are also superb but i always prefer to buy diamond jewelery from my own pocket n demand it from my hubby on special occasions only.

[pinks]

Re: 10,000 kee balian ya kangen

well, personally i like imitation jewelery

ok, this is off the topic, but it kust reminded me of my maasi, she bought her daughter imitation jewelery for her nikah, but kept on calling is ITIMATION, lol.... obviously she doesn't know english so she was just regurgitating what she'd heard.

ok, on with the discussion....

my POV; har insaan ko apne auqaat ke hisaab se spend kar ne chahye, i mean if u rn't not filthy rich, dont give ppl the impression that u r, and even if it wasn't about ppl, Allah SWT doesn't like ppl who do israaf... i guess all of us can best judge if we are indulging in israaf or not. On the contrary, no one shud go out of their way to look less then their financial worth... a balance has to be striked.

About the $10000 earings, my mentalitiy is that i could buy a kazillion (ok, maybe do-char less then a kazillion) less-expensive earings for that cost, one to match every suit i own :)

[Sara516]

Re: 10,000 kee balian ya kangen

@fazeelat

well, personally i like imitation jewelery (but dont wear it), gold designs are also superb but i always prefer to buy diamond jewelery from my own pocket n demand it from my hubby on special occasions only.

and besides very very few ppl wear real gold now, especially in pakistan, b/c of the high rate in crime and robberies, not to mention the prices are way too high for anyone to really afford… thats why you see alot of sets that have little bit of gold but more beads…I think up to a few years ago it wasn’t really appropriate/accepted to wear artificial, at least for married women, much less brides…like it HAD to be real sona, but nowadays you’ll even see new brides wearing huge artificial sets or earrings when going out, so it’s getting more acceptable.

anyways on topic, most of the ppl who have big bashes and stuff, are doing it just for hteir own khushi… i believe i said this in another thread, but unless you’re marrying that person and you (or your family) has to foot hte bill for it, why should it bother you how others are celebrating the most important moments of their lives? Not everybody is exceptionally cheap with every single aspect of their lives, we all have things/moments that we decide are worth the extra money, in weddings and life…

Nobody says that saadgi won’t work in today’s time… i think whomever wants to have a simple wedding is more than welcome to it, and that’s good for htem…but that doesn’t give them a right to act holier-than-thou b/c someone else wants to celebrate. You don’t like it when people will assume that you’re being kanjoos by having a simple wedding so why say that someone who wants the opposite is bragging and showing off their wealth?

[somegroovychick]

Re: 10,000 kee balian ya kangen

@Sara516

Nobody says that saadgi won’t work in today’s time… i think whomever wants to have a simple wedding is more than welcome to it, and that’s good for htem…but that doesn’t give them a right to act holier-than-thou b/c someone else wants to celebrate. You don’t like it when people will assume that you’re being kanjoos by having a simple wedding so why say that someone who wants the opposite is bragging and showing off their wealth?

exactly!

in summation (lol i feel like my soapbox rant needs a summation): weddings, i think are the most personal occasions we get to plan in our lives and frankly, you’ve gotta do what you want, how you want- and whether its within your means or not is your own call.

[moonmine]

Re: 10,000 kee balian ya kangen

jo aap per suit kare woh .. pehana chahiye ..

chahe wo expensive ho ya cheap