Re: 10,000 kee balian ya kangen
well, i’m offended- we had a really nice wedding. we spent quite a bit of money relative to everything else in our lives. we had around 100 guests and we did splurge on the food, the location, the flowers, our venue, the musicians, the invitations - and i don’t consider us unislamic for doing so. i consider us human beings who were happy to celebrate a really imporant day in our lives.
we didnt get married to prove to people that we know how to spend money or that we know how to throw a party- we got married because we loved one another and we had a wedding because we wanted to celebrate our union together. every bride and groom has the right to get married as they will without people imposing their own views and throwing water all over their celebrations and excitement. if you’re such a great judge of people and can already tell that their wedding is simply for the sake of show, then why attend? if you walk in and see that show and you’re so freakin’ disapproving of it, then leave. i’m sure you’d be the bigger person for standing by your own principles, right? 
its one things to have an opinion of how YOU would do things, and thats fine, but ts an entirely other thing to force this opinion on people and criticise their personal choices in favour of your own, not to mention rude. nobody on here is going to tell me my wedding was needlessly extravagant or that i should have better used that money for charity- charity has its own time and place, and personal celebrations have theirs. and how on earth can you assume that charity is missing from our lives or our wedding day simply by attending our wedding?
and WHY does this whole charity thing only appear during weddings? if you live in a house thats more than 1 bedroom, than i think you’re being extravagant because there are lots of people in africa who live in NO BEDROOM houses. oh no! so by your logic, you’re being wasteful, and you need to give up your other three bedrooms and spend all that money you save on charity. and stop driving when you could give all that gas money to charity and use transit instead.
sorry, ladies, but this topic and how often it keeps recurring just ticks me off. i really don’t think its up to anyone to dictate how someone else should or should not celebrate, especially since you don’t know their true motives and just assuming something, especially something negative, isn’t cool.
we had a great wedding MA and IA our marriage will also be great, and neither one of us regrets for one second the money we spent. it was a special day and it deserved special treatment. if you can afford it, and if you want to, then you have every right to have your own special day. and if you can’t afford it, and you still want to, then you still have every right to have your special day at whatever cost you think is reasonable, even if you’re in debt afterwards, because its a personal choice.
as for the $10,000 baliyan, well if i could afford them, i would buy them for myself. and i would greatly enjoy wearing them, i’m sure. but no, i wouldn’t force my husband to purchase them for me, nor would i go into debt for them.