Ever since I got married, I've been living with my in-laws, however, my husband has accepted the fact that my mother will live with us as soon as we buy our own house. He knew that my mother came with me - it was a package deal from the beginning as my mother is single with not a single family member around.
I don't understand why it is so hard for guys to accept their wife's parents living with them. All guys that think like that deserve to be left alone in their old age - abandoned by their kids - so they may know how it feels to be isolated.
Say your wife doesn't have any brothers or siblings to take her parents. So her parents are living alone, and want to move in with you. Joint family system, na ;)
So, gents, what is your reaction when your wife sits you down and announces her family would like to move in with you?
My parents have two daughters only and at this time they are healthy (m'A) and still working. However, if at some point they need care which eventually they will, both my husband and my sister's husband have already told them and us they they are welcome to live with us. There should be no questions in our mind about this.
If you break it down to religion, a child is supposed to take care of their parent. It doesn't say "oh you sons take care of your parents but daughters ummm, theat's not yor problem."
Culture, or at least some Pakistani mentality, dictates the girls parents can get stuffed and you'll be surprised how many people have this attitude. You can see the signs clearly from the beginning of the relationship with the way girl's family is treated during the wedding (i.e. putting up demands for jehaz, mistreating them at wedding functions, disrespecting them, etc.). Girls side is expected to bow down, at least culturally.
OK, all jokes aside, I think it should not be a problem at all. I want to enjoy the fruits of joint family system...heard so many good things about it.
i wouldn't be happy about it, but I would open my doors to my parents or my wife's parents. It is our religious duty to support parents. I'd rather financially support our parents so that they can live on their own, but if it got to a point that they NEED to be close to us, I'd rather set them up in an apartment or guest house on our property, I think it's important to maintain a bit of a boundary.
i wouldn't be happy about it, but I would open my doors to my parents or my wife's parents. It is our religious duty to support parents. I'd rather financially support our parents so that they can live on their own, but if it got to a point that they NEED to be close to us, I'd rather set them up in an apartment or guest house on our property, I think it's important to maintain a bit of a boundary.
i agree more with this reply then anything
even tho me and my future partner would need our own space, it is more important that mine or his parents would need to be taken care of whether that be financially or any other way.
