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I make sure with my dhoti I dont sit cross legged
Re: Your opinion on wearing "revealing clothes"
I make sure with my dhoti I dont sit cross legged
Hahaha
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Where do you draw the line and are you conscious about how modestly you dress?
For myself I draw the line at tacky, ill-fitting, out of style clothing. I believe I dress modestly for MYSELF.. To someone else I may not be modest. I like to wear shorter skirts because I like my legs.
And how "religious" would you consider yourself to be. If you watch what you wear, share why..
Not very religious at all. I watch what I wear based on how good I look, trends, etc.
do you "judge" others on how you see them dressed.
Of course I do. Not religious judgmental-ness, but just general judgmental-ness (ie: Wearing shalwar kameez to work in Canada is not business casual).
ETA: I saw a girl at a club once fully dressed (arms and legs covered) with a hijab, grinding up on some guy while drinking. So yeah I was judging then as well! LOL
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i consider myself moderately religious and wear loose clothing. 99% of my desi clothes are slightly loose and not tight fitting at all. i wear 3/4 or full sleeves in western and desi clothes. take a duppata always unless im wearing work type shirts. cardigans on short sleeve shirt, to cover arms and to not accentuate body parts. only long pants or jeans, no capris (wore them when i was 14-15)
most of my western clothing is modest as well.
i however do not wear a hijab, but do cover my head with a duppata at times, if im at prayers, or at a place with alot of staring men (like some bazaar in pakistan)
i dont really care what others' wear- it's their life. but yes i do get thoughts such as "how can she wear that tight/revealing stuff'' when i see a muslim girl dressed in such a way. but i never mention and the next second, the thought is out from my mind! i am no one to judge any one. hell, even my sister sometimes wears fitting shirts and half the time i dont say anything to her as she will get annoyed.
someone once told me that we should dress the way that we would pray. (for me that would be duppata on sarr and modest clothing) that's a good thinking- we should dress in a way that we can face Allah!
Re: Your opinion on wearing “revealing clothes”
I once asked a bunch of my gori colleague what is the logic behind wearing revealing clothes? some said “to flaunt our curves” .. others said “to get better attention from good looking men " .. some said " all the attention we get from the men and women around makes us feel confident about ourselves”
I said, so it comes down to getting others , in particular opposite gender’s attention?
the answer was more or less yes.
Next my question was, do you guys receive more predatory attention from unwanted sources when you wear half clothes v/s full clothes?
answer was yes again. Precisely one of them said, out of four hits one is a good hit !
few days later I was sitting with desi friend and asked her why do you wear revealing clothes? and she said in all honesty, makes me feel modern and show the world i am not conservative ..
What I gained out of this whole element is , there is nothing positive about revealing your body to everyone in the world ! its not appreciated in any religion, not just Islam but also in Christianity, Jewish etc ..
If you are not a religious person, even then, why would you want to attract attention to your body and not win the world with your brains instead?
Infact the whole purpose of introducing clothes to mankind was to get them to cover themselves !
one last thing, this is a man’s world where women are being used as eye candy ! this has been going on for centuries.. this mentality of getting women to dress revealingly and show off their bodies is not empowering women , they are insulting us women … when it comes to men , their formals are three piece suits and what not ! and when it comes to women, their preference is a dress that covers less then half their bodies.. all for the pleasure of men around them???
Creepy I tell you !
Desi’s are a totally different story.. I laugh at them when i see them trying to copy the gora lifestyle ! even this excuse that we have grown up here in the west , doesnt justify their behaviour. We are muslims first , nationals of countries later !
I guess I will stop just here :hinna:
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Muslim or not, revealing clothes are not good idea. For me, I don't buy such clothes which don't cover me properly i.e. if they are see-through, I won't buy them. Having clothes on brings protection, and if you feel unprotected in clothes, there is some problem.
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CB, where do you live?
It's 28C here today in London and I'm wearing shorts.. I'm at home tho and no-one is around.. Obviously I'm not doing it for attention..
I do show my legs sometimes when I go out but I might not show so much.. People here don't tend to stare at just a pair of legs.. Every other woman is wearing a skirt anyway...
In parts of the US and other warm places in the Summer I would think it's just as much about being comfortable than anything else.. I' know some women might wear revealing clothes for attention but in the west most guys will not stare at a woman just because she's wearing a skirt or sleeveless top.. They will (obviously) tend to stare at cleavage or if the clothing is tight.. I really don't believe all women do it for attention..
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I will only answer the judging question.
I think I only judge when I find something odd and not because I hold an ability to see their level of Iman. I have utmost respect for women in West who are trying to hold on to their religion by displaying modesty regardless of the evil circumstances they're in. In Muslim countries we have it easier. So that's why I won't even judge YT hijabis next time, even though I won't recommend anyone to take Islamic knowledge from random people on Internet.
When I see a woman in shorts and low neck I think to myself what a wonderful world...:D Yeah I think of that song.
Recently I had to attend a cricket match between people from my husband's workplace. I'd say it was a disgrace seeing women wearing inappropriate clothes. Showing off your assets is very undignified and chavy IMO. And no, I'm not talking about capris and short sleeves.
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I make sure with my dhoti I dont sit cross legged
Funny, because I actually make sure that I sit cross legged in my dhoti, to better flaunt my "curves".
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Deeba, I live in the UK .. but let me tell you, no matter how hot it is, shedding clothes aint the answer .. by that rate, africans wouldnt be wearing anything at all !
and .. as far as whose looking and whose not , well, point being, showing skin is to attract attention and majority do it for that reason ... its lame to think no one's looking ! if not the men , women might be looking ! its naive on a person's part to think no one's looking !
If you are arguing that its about who is comfortable wearing what.. then sorry to say , the argument loses its point coz by that rate alot of people will love to walk naked but they arent allowed to even though they might be highly comfortable !
Your opinion on wearing "revealing clothes"
^ hmmm I don't think I agree with that at all, that what people wear is for attention only. I think everyone enjoys dressing up and wants to look nice in their style, whether its brown or white clothes. Everyone wants to feel and look good. What people deem appropriate is their personal preference. I wear sleeveless outfits all the time. Most of my sarees and suits are sleeveless and none of my outfits are disapproved by my husband or family so I consider that very modest.
For me I like to think I dress modestly which to someone else might not be. Sleeveless and capris are the extent and the shortest skirt ill wear is below my knees because I'm not comfortable in anything higher. I do agree with the statement that really revealing clothes are not respected in any culture but that's where the line between classy and trashy are defined in my opinion. I think we all know what the difference is. Showing everything and anything, dressed inappropriately for the occasion or place I think I would think its for the attention. There's a difference from what people wear to work and then what they wear to a club. Keeping in mind if a person is going to a club or party baring it all, it's not even a surprise that coworkers would say its for attention. Those types are places are only meant for people to be crazy and meet others to take home. That's their culture and its what they do. But keep in mind that's because they are dressing up that day for that main purpose. Who shows up to an office in clubbing attire, right? its not appropriate.. So my point is to each is own. You might think a woman wearing even a sleeveless collar shirt or knee high skirt in the office is inappropriate but that's not at all in my opinion. And nor would I conclude she's doing it for attention. What if that person just wants to look nice? Now if they show up in a cocktail dress with a sweetheart neckline or something... Obviously that trying to make a statement for another reason because that's not work wear. And if they go as far as cleavage and more else I'm sure that's not even appropriate for white people. No one would appreciate that in that setting.
I only judge when I feel like someone is being hypocritical. Not really in the way people dress but yes sometimes you see too much of some people and think to yourself " what are they wearing?" I feel like I judge when I hear people giving lectures on Islam but mixed in with their opinions. We went to dinner with one of my husbands friends who was giving someone a lecture on why even McDonald's fries can't be eaten and is haram when someone mentioned a craving for McDonald's fries... And this is coming from the same guy who was dating a Hindu girl for like 5 years last year but now he's married so ofcourse it's a different standard now ... So yes I judge people like that. Same thing with a hijabi girl wearing really fitting clothing that seems off balance with her hijab...
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It's 28C here today in London
That's like winter for Qatar. :D
lucky you!
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Sleeveless is not revealing at all, its classic.I wear sleeveless dresses and I do not find them inappropriate.White lawn jora is revealing and every other girl is wearing it with colored undergarments.
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With me I don’t wear anything beneath my dhoti hence I am a bit shy to flaunt my izzat(s) to the world 
(S02 please don’t kill me for making ganday jokes 
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I really don't care how others dress. Wear what ever you want to and feel comfortable in, it's none of my business what you do.
Personally though, I don't wear revealing clothes. As in I'm always covered. No short skirts or short dresses, no deep neck shirts, not even sleeveless. I feel more comfortable being covered. But that's just me. What others decide to wear is really not my concern.
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I can do her job in this case. Will be happy to kill you and your izzat(s).
jk jk
maybe.
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Is there any other way to wear a dhoti? How else is one supposed to maximize the flaunting of the mizzats (male izzats)?
Dhoti on, underwear off, legs crossed, mizzats hanging, aunties haww’ing…all day 'err day. 
My biggest pet peeve!! The black bras under white/pink/yellow lawn suits!! And no shameez underneath! 
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I only do it sometimes. :sid:
p.s shameez? Is that a Hyderabadi thing again? 
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i thought I taught you better than that Ghostie :no:
And iono…isn’t that the correct word for a “slip”?!? I’m scared to say anything in Urdu anymore around here now lol…my awesome hydroness precedes me 