Schools can be regarded as a "mini" society, where there are rules and ethical codes, opportunities to improve oneself, and the chance to interact with peers, elders and those in positions of authority.
Yes I agree that some kids can pick bad habbits up from school, but on the whole parenting should be the major influence in their lives.
If we do a good job of raising the kids at home, then we should really be happy to let them out into the world, safe in the knowledge that our upbringing will steer our children away from the bad things in society!
Home schooling will certainly develop your child's ability for one-on-one interaction, but will hinder them in their adult life, where they will HAVE to come across other individuals!
All of us are witness to the conditions of society today...would you send your kids to school?
Schools are where they pickup culture, and learn all the wrong things you can possibly think of...and I'm not talking about classes, those are ok...its the interactions with other people, and kids.
Although people claim its critical for one to interact with other people, to develop some social skills, but is that the only venue through which you have to learn this skill?
Why not home schooling? You can save em from all the filth they encounter in schools (fitna) and allow them to learn the same thing...
Don't get me wrong, I don't have a problem with the education they're getting (wait..i do, but thats another topic..) but with the system of school...especially the people my kids will have to interact with.
P.S. I don't have kids ... yet. I'm just thinking ahead in the future, I don't see society getting any better in the near future....and my kids are the only way I can plant new seeds for a better society...
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Here in UK, there are 5 muslim faith schools and Govt. this year is going to recognise 7 new muslim schools so total would be 12.
Here are also some only girls secondary schools. Don't you have these?
I think its not good idea to isolate them, as they need to learn various skills.
you should prepare yourself and them for this challenge.
I used to be a secondary school teacher (high school) b4 i had my baby.....its a major part of a pupils learning...the whole school culture...they learn abt interaction with other pupils, teachers etc....skills that will set them up for later.... These children eventually enter the real world of work which is far more harsh than a school.
^^agreed! plus same-sex and faith schools, tend to have better academic achievement than mixed comprehensives. We need to give our children every single opportunity to better themselves and become good citizens, firstly to their faith, and secondly to their society!
It's upto the parents to give them enough discipline and understanding of what is beneficial for them and what steers them towards hell.
Whether you let them to school or let them out once they are mature/older enuff, ultimately the choice will always be theirs when choosing their path.
Home schooling will improve their one on one interacting skills but will cause problems when facing the real world and meetng all kinds of ppl. Ofcourse parents always try to guard their children from bad and evil... who will be there for them once they go by it on their own?
Even I am not afraid of state schools here in UK.........if you are good parent you can manage very well.
teachers do care for muslim students and their faith needs and concerns.....
its not messy or difficult........... in school a child learn so much think about yourself when you were in school.
I have already decided that if and when i have a child...he/she will not be attending school for the first couple of years...a number of reasons for this:
1) In the early years there's nothing someone else could teach my child, that I am not capable of teaching my children myself.
2) I do not like the new system of teaching where children as young as three are giving tragets to achieve, or that certain subjects need to be done at certain times. A child should be free to learn as he is able to and continue to learn something until he chooses, without being labelled if he does not follow the set conduct or schedule.
3) I personally believe that a child will learn and remeber far more practically than if he is taught by theory in a classroom. As such rather than learning about science or maths in class, I would rather they learnt in a practical environment (e.g collecting pebbles on the beach (shapes, sizes, texture etc) building sandcastles (DT) etc)
4) I want a career...therefore i do not want to constrained by time limits and organising the day around my children. Instead I would rather send him/her to creche or playschool when I please, otherwise their time will be spent with me. I do not want to be thinking of running out of important meetings just because schools ending. I know that the career i want will mean that I have heavy load and no set day will be the same, so when I have free time I want to be able to spend that time with them. Some people may argue that I would organise my child's life around me, but that is not the case. I believe I will be a better mother if I have career and at the same time teach my child independence and to aim high in life. Whereas if I was to stay at home I would believe that my child has constrained rather than advanced me as a person.
This would be until my child reaches a certain age until I believe that he will learn more in a classroom than with me, so probably until the age of 8 or perhaps when it nbecomes time to attend secondary school.
1) In the early years there's nothing someone else could teach my child, that I am not capable of teaching my children myself.
True say. Excellent if you have the time.
2) I do not like the new system of teaching where children as young as three are giving tragets to achieve, or that certain subjects need to be done at certain times. A child should be free to learn as he is able to and continue to learn something until he chooses, without being labelled if he does not follow the set conduct or schedule.
I agree but do you not think they are given targets to get into the practice of it at a very young and tender age? As it is widely known, children are like sponges and soak in everything they are taught, this also includes discipline. I do agree that they should be given a chance to push their own limits and see their progressive potential, its highly motivating, but this also applies to target achieving also.
3) I personally believe that a child will learn and remeber far more practically than if he is taught by theory in a classroom. As such rather than learning about science or maths in class, I would rather they learnt in a practical environment (e.g collecting pebbles on the beach (shapes, sizes, texture etc) building sandcastles (DT) etc)
Excellent, some good schools also prefer the practical approach.
4) I want a career...therefore i do not want to constrained by time limits and organising the day around my children. Instead I would rather send him/her to creche or playschool when I please, otherwise their time will be spent with me. I do not want to be thinking of running out of important meetings just because schools ending. I know that the career i want will mean that I have heavy load and no set day will be the same, so when I have free time I want to be able to spend that time with them. Some people may argue that I would organise my child's life around me, but that is not the case. I believe I will be a better mother if I have career and at the same time teach my child independence and to aim high in life. Whereas if I was to stay at home I would believe that my child has constrained rather than advanced me as a person.
Hmmm I can understand this since it will be a an arising problem once I'm in the situation too but if your child can only learn when you are around/off from work, then isn't your child being neglected at his/her most crucial age to soak education in as well as interacting with others? I'm sure theres so much you can teach them once you are back home from a hard day of working.
This would be until my child reaches a certain age until I believe that he will learn more in a classroom than with me, so probably until the age of 8 or perhaps when it nbecomes time to attend secondary school.
I'd appreciate a response as this is inspiring to be honest. :)
I prefer to send them to a private school and for that I need money at first lol.
I prefer to send them to a private school and for that I need money at first lol.
I haven't thought it through enough...I'm only 21 yet...but when the situation arises I will give it proper thought...I would send them to a creche so that they are still interacting with children of their age, just not to a school whereby I and they would have to abide by a set-time.
I've been educated at a private school myself...the good thing about them is that children are learning in an environment where education is encouraged but the downside that I noticed was that some young children were really neglected by their parents...yes they had everything materially...but 5 year olds were getting on the bus themself and were actually little robots, and not people...I'd rather that if I had spare time during the day to spend that time with my child and I most certainly do not want my child getting the bus on his own at the age of 5.
Young children in private schools really have problems adjusting to the outside world. I remember a teacher discussing in class of 8 of us that he only thought 2 of us (including me) would actually be able to interact and survive in the real world. That was a shock for the rest of them. I am so glad my parents did not have money initially to send me there, and was educated in astate school during my early years.
I was lucky in that my mum was a stay at home parent...and as much as I loved this, I don't think I'm like my mum in the sense that I could be happy as a stay at home mum. I need to be doing something, even if its learning something or otherwise I just become a lazy boring *****.
When I said Home schooling, I meant another system through which they can get their education...I know how damaging it can be to keep them away from society...
but in their early years, we should Educate them, and let them interact (lawfully) and observe the environment around them...
And try **our hardest **to keep them on the right path....(which islam makes it easy btw...)
this way, Once they are young adults and able to stand on their own feet, they can face the world, and work to prosper it...instead of getting involved in the decay that most people get sucked into...
I am a teacher and strongly feel that you are doing a disservice to kids by homeschooling them for extended periods of time.
Eventually, your kids need to be able to live and function within the world. They need to learn to communicate with lots of different types of people and in different circumstances, they need to learn how to make good choices, how to decide who to be friends with, who/how to tolerate others. They need to learn problem-solving by being open-minded, innovative, thoughtful, considerate.
And, to be honest, parents don't know everything, and I wouldn't feel comfortable being responsible for eveyrthing my child needs to know. I'm no expert.
So what if the schools will expose them to "bad" things? So will the rest of the world -- you think you can keep them locked in a tower and protected from all the world's evils? You simply can't, and even if you could, you would be keeping your own children from the world's happiness as well.
It is, however, very important to be an actively informed and participating parent. Too many desi parents feel uncomfortable in Western counties, and therefore remain uninformed and ignorant about their own children's schooling. That's not the way to go. You're not sure about something? Ask. Talk to your child's teachers and adminsitrator's. Know their names, subjects, expectations, goals, etc. Treat them with respect, explain your questions and concerns. And do what you can to improve the quality of the school and education as a whole by volunteering if you have time. Supplement the school education with your own teachings and take them to a religious school if you wish.
We fear what we do not understand. It's important to know exactly what your child is learning and why. Don't be afraid to ask. Work with your child's school.
With people like yourself as parents, I would suggest you act on that thought as closely as you can for the sake of other normal kids. Please. Thank you :o .