Re: would you pay for this?
^ no, thats not always true. italian and greek weddings, for instance, tend to be just as big as desi weddings and they do go all out with the venue, flowers, decor, etc. and they spend thousand’s of dollars on them, but its also because people gift pretty generously with money and most couples get enough to cover their costs entirely. if desi people started following the rule of enough to cover your plate + a bit extra for each person at the wedding, as opposed to $50 for a family of five because they’re not that close to the couple (
), then maybe desi weddings could be as spectacular too. we also really need to learn to control our guest lists.
i think its important. i did it all for my wedding mA - i had beautiful centrepieces, i researched a lot of event planners before deciding to do it all by myself, and i definitely wanted a well-done, nicely pulled-together look for my day, and i made sure i didn’t have to compromise. if i found something that wasn’t within my budget, i just kept researching and calling vendors and suppliers until i made it work.
my top priorities were photographer, venue, food and decor - in that order, and we paid accordingly too. making a budget in order of priorities and sticking to it are the hardest things in wedding planning but it is definitely do-able! you just have to be creative and stubborn about it.
AH, the day was great, and honestly, every, single person who attended the wedding (and those who’ve seen the pics) told me it was a hugely memorable day and the attention to detail was amazing. i’m not saying the day would have been less special if i hadn’t had three centerpieces per table and runners on the tables and orchids in the vases, but i know to me, personally, it was money well-spent and it was entirely within our budget, and it added that extra bit of oomph! that i was looking for. it was the entire day that i wanted to be special and for people to experience as opposed to just looking at me on a stage and eating food. to me, something like that seems very incomplete somehow.
i think its absolutely possible to have superior decor, even if you’re on a budget, if you’re determined to do things in a particular way. keep looking around and researching, and talking to people and figuring out how to do what you want on your wedding day.
i think its a bit of a shame that sometimes people don’t consider the details important- i think those are what really define your wedding day and make it more special than a mass-feeding event, which is what most desi weddings end up being!
also, those decor pics posted on the first page are so OTT, imo. i’d rather have a more contemporary and cleaner-looking room than masses of fabric draped everywhere. its a fire hazard! 
