Would you ever raise your hand on your father?

[SolarOceans]

Re: Would you ever raise your hand on your father?

@Faruk Khan

If God forbid my dad was to hit mom (thank God that has never happened) I wouldn’t hit him but I would get in the way and prevent him from hitting her, if it was really bad I’d pack her bags and take her out of the house and get a place of my own where she can live safely.

Some of you sound so westernised (kaafirised) in your thinking, how can you even comprehend hitting the father who burnt his blood and sweat working so that you can have a decent life? We’re not like westerners, relationships don’t have as much meaning for westerners as they have for us, our parents do a lot more for us than western parents can ever imagine doing for their children, I’ve seen with my own eyes the nature of relationships in their non-Muslim culture, I’ve seen very few family orientated western families who selflessly love their families. You get some Muslim families who just don’t give a **** compared to westerners they are a minority.

Our Prophet :saw: was orphaned at a very young age but he always stressed the importance of respecting parents.

I am so tired of the west argument. Last I checked God owns it all, the east and the west.

And there are plenty of families here who do a lot for their children and vice versa. Just because they do it differently does not mean they don’t care about their families the way “we” do.

And it is disrespecting your mother if your God forbid your dad was to hit your Mom. There’s no reason for that and i’m not advocating punching him or anything like that but i believe that some action, whether that be pushing him away or whatever, needs to be taken. If you don’t do that, then i’d say you’re being pretty unfair to the victim who is also your mother.

[Faruk_Khan]

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@itsme01

^ Faruk Khan,
You have misread the opinions. What the ‘other’ side is saying is that: When it becomes necessary then you must do what so ever to defend. This I have proven Islamically earlier - and please refrain from name calling - thats not very “Muslim” of you to do so.

Jazak’Allah Khair

I don’t know man but would your own zameer allow you to hit your father? There’s other ways of defense than hitting your father.

If it’s for Allaah like when the disciples of the Prophet :saw: were faced with their own family members in battle they fought them, that’s different and justified.

[SolarOceans]

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[itsme01]

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Faruk
^ ahan, Agree with that, and I never said that Just go and start beating the **** out of a/both parents.

[dope]

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quote=Captain Lota = knock him the fcuk out.

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I agree with you completely. it's just that I am a man of few words.

[niyal]

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1. if my parents or father ever hits me i will start crying
2. i would try to clear up things ..
3. yes i would say things like U were very wrong etc. but would never hit him . or even say harsh words.

[Soomro]

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I am against beating up a child BIG TIME! I rather tell them with love instead beating the crap out!

Don’t worry as many adults in marriage end up becoming their parents..

[shweetdreamz]

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@Soomro

Don’t worry as many adults in marriage end up becoming their parents..

yeah. especially if they think its necessary to tolerate the physical abuse from parents…

result= they turn into abusive parents themselves.

[picoico]

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No, but I often feel like slapping a parent who refuses to discipline their rowdy runts.

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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@Barfee

LoL maddy thats hillarious!

I was such a good kid that never did anythign that deserved a thappar. I just sat there with my chubby cheecks looking all innocent :Pretty:

Plus if anyone tried to thappar you your cheeks would have soaked up all of the impact

[Todd]

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why would you create such a situation at the first place?

[m_waleed86]

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@itsme01

no not revenge - rather defending oneself and the loved ones from either / both parents.

To 2 "nice folks above": m_waleed: what if there in no time - or that a/both parent is/are hitting something that you dearly hold love to.

now now.....think u got some real problems with dads.....who would u hold dear more than ur parents?.... at least my parents are dearest to me than any thing(except perhapes ALLAH)...dont know bout u....and even if i am in a difficult situation...i would rather 'defend' both of them (if u get the idea)

[rizwanfareed]

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Who would you hold dear more than your parents? Hmm maybe your own children, what if your own children were getting beaten up? then what?

[m_waleed86]

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my own children getting beaten by their GRAND PARENTS....now i wont have the strenght to stop them....parents take a pain first to born the kid and then to bring him up...and then if the kid turns against his/her own parents...IS THIS JUSTICE??... me thinks its the parents right to beat their childern (for obvious reasons).....me kids would be dear to me ...but i think not much more dearer than my parents....

[rizwanfareed]

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Do you have kids? I dont think so
When you have kids you will realise that you do in some ways love them more than your parents.

[m_waleed86]

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@rizwanfareed

you do in some ways love them more than your parents.

well...yes i agree with as i have no kids...i may have different feelings for them...
but as you wrote me thinks 'those some ways' may be less than in the many ways in which i love my parents....

btw do u have kids????

[m_waleed86]

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It's natural...as there is a world of a difference betweeen ones parent's and his/her kids.....you cant even compare between the two.....it's actually two entirely different situations in which u deal with ur parents and ur kids....

[Degas]

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I would raise my hands and say.. aaj maaf kar de - baqi kal mar layen

[rizwanfareed]

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Yeah I do have kids. Now I know your going to ask how would I feel if my children hit me back to which I reply " I will not hit my fully grown children" Not from fear but from respect for humanity.

There comes a stage when you shouldnt really be hitting your children.

[Numb]

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I wouldn´t let him hit me! Why? Do we Muslims not say that we should follow the Sunnah of our Rasool? He never raised his Hand on someone in his entire life, so why should we?

A beating father is a crackhead, a person who can´t control his anger, who is not able to solve the matter with coolness...that´s what our Religion stands for > Coolness