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I agree all this should be discussed before marriage.
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LOL, after or before the sex?
After, or you won't be so lucky.
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LOL, after or before the sex?
Before sex, it's common sense.
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I'd say no to first meeting (unless you're a very upfront person in general), but I think it's very important to make this clear early on. Otherwise, people get their hopes up or start making plans in their heads.
The worst thing I've seen in this regard is when it's been a while and the couple has decided they enjoy each other's company - and then the girl tells the guy she wants to keep working after marriage, and he isn't okay with it. It's more complicated that way because now they're emotionally invested in each other and everyone thinks they want to get married. When this happens, sometimes the couple will fool themselves into believing they can change for the other person (he thinks he can make himself get used to the idea of a working woman, or she thinks she can give up working for him). That's a recipe for disaster, generally, because you're trying to change your basic ideals and beliefs for someone you've only known for a few months, and it's very rare for that to work out. >.<
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Before sex, it's common sense.
After Sex!
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I agree with Hinaji^
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After, or you won't be so lucky.
After Sex!
I agree with Hinaji^
Experience speaking I guess!
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i think the trend is changing now..more educated professional guys prefer professional women as it means more income earned!which means a better lifestyle standard for the couple! i personally know a few guys who do not like their educated spouses sitting at him and just being plain housewives but rather push them to work and utilise their education...other guys just want their wives to work to keep themselves busy and not indulge in petty home politics,relatives misgivings etc..its like a way out!
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I am all for upfront disclosure on working vs non working....why waste either parties time and get emotionally invested if there are difference of opinions on this? I would not have even continued talking to my husband if we weren't on the same page prior to marriage. Our mutual thought process, goals and plans for life is what attracted me to him as a life partner.
Agree..
I would want** the right** to work.. For me that would be one of the few things which would be non-negotiable..
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Experience speaking I guess!
nope just chiming in with the others. one does not need to go to the moon to know about the craters and volcanic features.:)