Re: Working women, what do you contribute to the household?
^ so true
Re: Working women, what do you contribute to the household?
Islamically the husband should provide for his wife right? mortgage, house bills etc thats all up to him isn't it? And whatever money the wife earns as her own is her own. If she wants to help her husband out then thats fine.
If someone has a mortgage its that persons responsibility to pay it. They shouldn't ask the other to pay half just because they're married. Mortgage is in husband's name, husband pays it.
What do you guys think?
If one income can manage it, great,; if not, I don't think the bank cares that you aren't Islamically required to pay up. It would be stupid to be like, "No. I want my diamonds and mani-pedis. This money is mine. You find another way to pay for the house I live in."
Re: Working women, what do you contribute to the household?
Islamically the husband should provide for his wife right? mortgage, house bills etc thats all up to him isn't it? And whatever money the wife earns as her own is her own. If she wants to help her husband out then thats fine.
If someone has a mortgage its that persons responsibility to pay it. They shouldn't ask the other to pay half just because they're married. Mortgage is in husband's name, husband pays it.
What do you guys think?
Sure but what if your husband doesn't earn enough. Does this mean you will not support him?.
I would HATE it if i didn't contribute to my husband's income. And this is because then we can both grow stronger. Especially in this tough economical uncertainity.
Re: Working women, what do you contribute to the household?
Islamically the husband should provide for his wife right? mortgage, house bills etc thats all up to him isn't it? And whatever money the wife earns as her own is her own. If she wants to help her husband out then thats fine.
If someone has a mortgage its that persons responsibility to pay it. They shouldn't ask the other to pay half just because they're married. Mortgage is in husband's name, husband pays it.
What do you guys think?
^ Technically what you wrote is correct (ie. Islamically it's the husband's resposilibyt to provide). But then again, it can be said that its also the woman's job to take care of the household and children while the man earns the money to fulfill his financial responsiblity. So if the woman's going to go out to work and keep ALL her earning for herself....who's going to pay for the daycare/nanny? Who's going to do ALL the housework?
Marriage is all about partnership. There should not be any "mine" and "yours" in a marriage. Its two people supporting one another in every possbile way they can to build a better life for themselves and their future children. I feel bad for any husband whose wife does not WANT to help him out financially if she's earning a paycheck.
Re: Working women, what do you contribute to the household?
Re: Working women, what do you contribute to the household?
If husband makes enough money for both to live very comfortably, he probably will not want his wife's money.
So yeah, husband cannot ask his wife for her money in an Islamic marriage.
But what kind of wife watches her husband struggle when she can easily help him run THEIR home?
Re: Working women, what do you contribute to the household?
^not anyone that I know 
Re: Working women, what do you contribute to the household?
Eggjackly!
Re: Working women, what do you contribute to the household?
If husband makes enough money for both to live very comfortably, he probably will not want his wife's money.
So yeah, husband cannot ask his wife for her money in an Islamic marriage.
But what kind of wife watches her husband struggle when she can easily help him run THEIR home?
Is there a specific hadith or Quranic verse about that?
Re: Working women, what do you contribute to the household?
^ Surah an- Nisa talks extensively about women's property/financial/inheiritance rights in Islam ***"And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, Of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it with right good cheer" (4:4)
The Shari‘ah (Islamic Law) recognizes the full property rights of women before and after marriage. They may buy, sell or lease any or all of their properties at will. For this reason, Muslim women may keep (and in fact they have traditionally kept) their maiden names after marriage, an indication of their independent property rights as legal entities.
Financial security is assured for women. They are entitled to receive martial gifts without limit and to keep present and future properties and income for their own security, even after marriage. No married woman is required to spend any amount at all from her property and income on the household. In special circumstances, however, such as when her husband is ill, disabled or jobless, she may find it necessary to spend from her earnings or savings to provide the necessities for her family. While this is not a legal obligation, it is consistent with the mutuality of care, love and cooperation among family members.
On a personal note, when my mother passed away 4 years ago, I recieved a sizeable inheiritance from her Estate, and of course my husband and I decided together what we would do with that amount, however, he never imposed his thoughts/opinions...it was always "tumhara hay, thum jo karna chaaho, karlo"...he never factored that amount into his responsibilites of running the household. Same with my income, whatever I deposit into my own personal account as "play" money, 95% of the time gets spent on him and the kids and the house anyway and he knows it. My main reason for wanting my own seperate account was more out the fact that I wanted to teach myself to be independent financially, if god forbid, anything ever happened to him. The first 10 years of our marriage, I didn't even know what the password was for our online banking! I had no idea what our life insurance policies were, how he had set up the bill paying structure...nothing! It took both my parents passing away unexpectedly for me to snap out of it and learn how to be financially stable on my own, for the sake of my children.