Re: Women who abandon their children
i know a woman who left 3 daughters and a son for a married man living in the same neighbourhood, the youngest girl was just 15 months, the woman has 1 kid now with the second husband, who btw left her n went back to his first wife n kids. This woman also tried to patch up with her first husband, but he had remarried. so as revenge she took away her elder 3 kids n left them at her sister's to b raised.... such a sad story :(
Re: Women who abandon their children
Its quite tempting to blame the women for being selfish or even question their sanity for taking such a step; but a lot of ground realities of pakistani society are ignored by people.
A widower with kids can find a new wife (a younger one at that), who will then be a mother to his kids. On the other hand, its already difficult for an older woman to get a rishta, let alone for one who will bring along children from her previous marriage. Leaving children behind increases the chances of finding a new husband. Traditionally, women have not been financially independent so they cannot support the children on their own either.
As for a woman who abandons her husband and kids for another guy, lets not forget that in our society, the woman lives in her husbands house so she is the one who has to 'flee'. A man can have another woman in his life without having to 'abandon' anyone. In some cases he can even take a second wife.
Re: Women who abandon their children
i don't know any stories.. just a girl who gave away her son to her sister since her sister could not have kids.. which is an entire new topic to be discussed.
i would never be able to leave my kids even if my life dependant on it .
Re: Women who abandon their children
Know of one case where a women (Pakistani) had 2 kids mostly because of family/societal pressure. She was one of those people who always said they didn't really want kids, but her parents/in laws pushed her into it saying once she had them she would be fine. She wasn't though, was absolutely miserable with them, didn't know what to do with them, couldn't cope, had a few nervous breakdowns and also felt bad because she was made to believe all these things made a horrible person. She didn't abandon them though, she split up with her husband and he has full custody with his new wife and she does see them every once in a while. I personally think it was the right move, it wasn't easy for her but she is much happier now and I think the kids are too because they weren't raised by someone who couldn't give them what they need.