Re: Women: Does it matter how much income your husband to be brings home?
Yes there is a figure in my mind, bt honestly a simple six digit salary will be fine. But as I always say, it isn't the only factor, there are many other factors that play in. So its not like I'll be obsessed with his financial situation but it does play a role because a lack of finances can cause problems later down the road. If he has other qualities though and we click and he isn't close to the six digit salary but is still a hard working, honest and motivated individual then that financial situation can be overlooked. :)
Re: Women: Does it matter how much income your husband to be brings home?
Yes there is a figure in my mind, bt honestly a simple six digit salary will be fine. But as I always say, it isn't the only factor, there are many other factors that play in. So its not like I'll be obsessed with his financial situation but it does play a role because a lack of finances can cause problems later down the road. If he has other qualities though and we click and he isn't close to the six digit salary but is still a hard working, honest and motivated individual then that financial situation can be overlooked. :)
A "simple" six figure salary? Lol if you're planning to marry in your early-mid twenties I hope you realize that very few people make that kind of money. Most end up with a low six figure salary near the middle or end of their careers.
Re: Women: Does it matter how much income your husband to be brings home?
Im planning to get married in my twenties(IA), but I want to marry someone more mature than me…thirties..I LIKE OLDER GUYS(Blame it on saif ali ). Its out in the open now teheh. Like I said even if he doesn’t make that kind of money, Its not a dealbreaker.
Re: Women: Does it matter how much income your husband to be brings home?
Money is one of the main reason for divorces (believe me..I know!). In a perfect world...it shouldn't matter. However, the fact remains that it does matter and has the potential to break up a marriage if people are not honest with themselves as to what type of "lifestyle" they expect to live.
For me personally, education is important. I also knew that after kids, I want to be able to stay-home and continue having a comfortable lifestyle for myself, husband, AND future children. I know quite a few couples who're having major issues in their marriage b/c the wife wants to stay home but the husband's salary isn't enough to support the family...OR the husband's salary alone changes their "lifestyle" drastically. That is not something I want to experience. There have been guys in the past where I didn't consider them to be "spouse material" due to their level of income (and for the record, my fiance is quite aware of my views and knows that his choice of career/income was a consideration on my part).
Of course....unexpected things happen and the bread-winner can always lose the source of income. But that doesn't mean that one can't do their best to "plan" their financial future and do their best to ensure that $$$ won't be a source of arguments in the future. It's not much different than getting in a car and putting on a seatbelt....the seatbelt doesn't guarantee that that an accident won't happen or you won't get injured....but it definately reduces the risk of it.
Re: Women: Does it matter how much income your husband to be brings home?
In my experience...
Finances are unpredictable...you can do your best but at the end of the day its not in your hands entirely. Job stability is not what it used to be and people have had to give up their homes, luxuries and live simple lives due to the recession.
I admit, there was a time when I used to think money is important and to a certain degree it is. But do I believe a man should be rejected based on his salary? No. I think his ambitions and goals should be taken into consideration. Is he motivated and driven? Does he believe in doing better in life?
If he is a good man...the rest will follow. He understands his responsibilities and will do what needs to be done.
Re: Women: Does it matter how much income your husband to be brings home?
there is a matter of ability and qualifications and accomplishments. not just ambition, goals, and other disney-princessy intangible and non-evaluable poppycock.
and this is clearly documented social behavior - women find the same exact man much more attractive even from a sexual perspective when introduced with the idea that he is financially successful. especially the older girls.
Re: Women: Does it matter how much income your husband to be brings home?
Just a salary figure does not matter. If I have to look for a guy for my daughters, this is what I will see.
What is the future earning potential of the guy (does he have a degree that has a good demand in corporate market, is he doing a business that is growing)
How is his capability to manage fiances (is he frugal which is a NO. is he a big spender, which is also a NO. he should be moderate)
What are his current liabilities? (it may come across as stupid, but is he supporting a big family, like parents and younger siblings, or no)
Re: Women: Does it matter how much income your husband to be brings home?
qualifications and accomplishments are a result of ambition. although i am sure there will be some ridiculous argument coming where someone tries to say the opposite.
Re: Women: Does it matter how much income your husband to be brings home?
Come on guys, no one will put how God-fearing he is as the top most thing?
I see education, responsible, earning potential, etc. All of this goes down the drain when he treats her like a jerk.
Khair, anyway, as far as money is concerned he should have enough to support and maintain a family (whether that's just 2 people for more). There's no guarantee that a millionaire today is a millionaire tomorrow. It takes just a blink of an eye to lose a fortune. And there are many examples of that in history.
However, if someone is aware of his Islamic obligations towards his wife and kids (man are the ones who have to provide), then Insha'Allah he will work 2 jobs to put food on the table and Insha'Allah the wife will appreciate that even more than when he was a millionaire.
). Its out in the open now teheh. Like I said even if he doesn’t make that kind of money, Its not a dealbreaker.