Women are very emotional creatures, and usually when we get involved in a relationship we get attached really quick. So when the relationship fizzles and dies, it takes some time for us to deal with that heartache and heal from the sadness of it all. ** It takes a lot for a man to really grieve after a breakup from my experience. He has to really have loved her from the depths of his soul to be hurt and to need time to get over it. **I also note that women cant really be players... I mean they cant have a boyfriend for timepass, because they eventually end up falling for him, or just getting sick of passing time with a person tehy see no future with, so they just break it off in the early stages...
I was wondering if its the same with a man. I know someone who has been involved with a girl for almost a year now, and they both started the relationship with the notion that its gonna be for fun/timepass. The girl ended up falling for him... HARD... and told him that she's seriously in love with him, and the guy, while he does say he loves her, also says that he doesn't really take the whole thing very seriously... well then, I'd say he's just playing a game, right?
My question is, can a man be with a woman for this much time and still not fall in love with her? Could it be possible that he's still considering the whole relationship to be a pastime?
One of my male friends said that the same way if a woman continuously sleeps with the same guy, even if at first for lust, she eventually falls in love with the guy, and that the same is true for guys. That they do fall in love with a girl on the sole basis that they've been regularly intimate. I dont get it though.
Guys, shed some light on this if you will :)
Given enough time, women generally would fall in love with anyone. They have a more stable outlook on love, and are more concerned with maintaining the status-quo. It is probably easier for them to fall in love, and falling out is considerably difficult. Men, however, play on extreme ends. Some men could be called players who, owing to their narcissistic tendencies, almost never fall in love. Others fall in love and invest their heart and soul into the relationship, and yet, by nature, it is difficult for men to truly fall in love, thus their love is more thoughtful and passionate. Love is their brainchild - a blend of perfection, passion, enthusiasm, genuine care and much more. So when the emotional investment is coupled with the knowledge that you can not fall in love easily, and that the one you fall (or fell) for, was the right person for you, falling out is much more difficult than anyone can imagine.
I have seen some successful and brilliant men becoming emotional wrecks owing to love or the ceased existence of it.
I can quote many examples.. but ..oh well..