all you guys r taking torture in physical sense.....
how about mentally torturing.....
for instance .....lets say you know that going back in time and thinking about ur past is just gona hurt u and you are slowly killing urself from inside.... but u still keep visiting those place which remind of the incidents or people or things that hurt u ....
why people do that ?
Blindhope,
It's not only some people who do that. Many of us revisit painful memories during various points in our life. It's human nature. It's just that some people do it more than others. And if revisiting these memories is preventing them from moving forward and leading a more positive lifestyle....then they need support/help.
But keep in mind.....**most of us **revisit our painful **and **pleasant past.
You're asking why people do that. Well, it depends on the relationships and feelings that the individual has toward the people who hurt him/her. Think about it. If a stranger/coworker/acquaintance from school says or does something offensive to you......you will be pissed for maybe a few hours and then you'll get over it and forget about it. The reason is because you don't have any strong emotional attachments to this stranger/coworker/acquaintance. BUT if someone that you REALLY TRULY love and care about such as your parents, sibling, best friend, spouse BETRAYS you.............it's VERY PAINFUL and it becomes harder to move on from this because you have stronger emotional attachments to that person. Also you have better expectations from people you are close to which is why their betrayal hurts more.
It's healthy to revisit the past sometimes and learn lessons from it. For example, if you've dealt with people who have screwed you over in the past....you learn the lesson of being more cautious in the future. Also, keep in mind that everyone is different. Some people move on quickly whereas other people take a longer time in moving on from past hurts. As I said earlier, if the individual is having trouble with focusing on daily activities because they are consumed with the past.....then they need help.