Re: Why do men usually get blamed for divorces or failed relationships ?
You’re basing this off of the small pool of relationships you’ve seen your friends go through. We have no idea what happened in those relationships because we weren’t a fly on the wall of the apartment those two lived in so we can’t really judge who the cheater was.
Naah, when it comes to divorce, of the ones i’ve come across, the woman is for the most part seen as the one that didn’t try her hardest to keep the family together. She’s the one that broke the home, regardless of what went wrong in the marriage. I’ve seen it where the divorced guy was seen as the poor guy whose wife just up and left so now he has no one to feed his empty stomach and these are women that see this, ones that have husbands that are decent so they’ve never experienced how a bad, abusive marriage is so regardless of what they’ve heard, they see him as the guy whose wife just left everything. So, divorced women are tended to be seen as the husband stealer or they aren’t exactly accepted by all with open arms. There is a stigma, like a big “D” on their clothes, if they reveal they are divorced.
I’ll have to agree with illuminate in that women are taught since childhood to do everything in their power to be very tolerant, adjust and be understanding.
I’ve also seen it where the guy married a girl, one of several his parents gave him a choice to marry, but he’s not faithful even if his wife knows about what he’s up to but she’s supposed to tolerate it because the elders see it as a phase the husband is going through so she’s pursuing her masters while he’s paying for it and he’s also trying to chase other women. The girl can’t really do anything about it because she just came from the old country and doesn’t have a job or any work experience so she’s just dealing with it.
Even with the ones i’ve mentioned, we can’t generalize most all relationships because those are only ones i’ve come across. Your opening comment is very one sided. We can’t really generalize about something like a relationship especially since we don’t know what the two went through every day of their lives together, what hell either one went through.