Re: Why British Asian Girls Are So Desperate?
I hope you are just pointing at this certain community in Britain, cuz the girls here in pak still act in a very respectable and dignified manner. I think it has a lot to do with how were you brought up. Now my female cousins in the uk had to go through a lot of different stuff compared other girls their age. My uncle only allowed them education till O-levels since it's free and then just kept them home, inside. I think that made them extremely rebellious. One of my other cousins came here for nikah and she didn't even know some of the surah's that every muslim knows by heart. I think when religion is missing in your bringing up, this is what happens.
On the other hand, I also have relatives there who have brought their children up according to the family values and religious teachings.
Well Im a British Asian girl and Im certainly not a prostitute and non my asian friends would stoop this low ever. Some British Asian girls might be of loose character, but so are some of the Pakistani born ones, I've been to Pakistan and seen them hanging out in Coffee shops on dates and messing around with guys in Internet Cafes and look at the way they dress in Pakistan, wearing sleeveless outfits, cropped pants and see through clothing, is this Islamic? Shouldn't this be shunned upon? Wheres the modesty in our dress sense gone? The girls that dress un-appropriately might not be "PROSTITUTES" but their not dressing very islamically are they? Its not right as a muslim girl to go around showing off your body is it?
Infact, when I was in Pakistan I met a female doctor who told me that the abortion rates in Pakistan is one of the highest in the world. Look a little closer to home, at least living in Pakistan girls shouldn't be like that, I mean come on it's an Islamic country, don't they teach Islamiyyat in like every school and it's compulsory.
I think the British Asian girls who are skank-o-meter-high have more of a right to be than the ones living in Pakistan, seeing as they have been born and brought up in a western country, but on the other side I do feel that these types of girls have lack of morals and values overall and are weak in their religious beliefs, or its pure rebellion, some parents who have come straight from Pakistan are so un educated, the dad is either on the dole/a taxi driver/restaurant owner/corner shop owner and mum stays home and cooks rotis, the parents don't have time to see what their kids are doing or time to talk to them and the mum who has a lot of time to spend with her kids just sits infront of the TV watching pakistani dramas and if she is approached with a question/worries is just too dumb to understand, she shouts at her kids for being so ridiculous or just ignores them. These parents know nothing about anything worldly all they do is try to turn their kids in to islamic terrorists, a lot of kids get fed up and rebel the other way because their parents try and stop them form doing anything western. I mean iv seen girls who come to Uni and change in to their mini skirts and rip their Hijabs off, one girl who went to school with me wasn't allowed to wear western clothes, cut her hair or go out alone, had to wear hijab and after school wasn't allowed to go to Uni, you wanna know what she' turned out like?? She got a job, started going clubbing, dating guys, having pre marital sex, but now she's married to her cousin from Pakistan, who she forced to come to the UK and live with her, tpical! But it's not only girls, iv also seen guys who are 5 times a day namazis but have girlfriends, go to clubs, drink and are having pre marital sex, even during ramadhan, after Iftari go read Tiravi and it's party time. It's just when they start going college, or Uni (living away form home) it's the first bit of freedom they get and start acting up and when they go home they start acting like good little girls and boys again, after the 3 years of Uni (once they've had their fun obviously) if they haven't got themselves pregnant or killed in some drug fight they all revert back to Islam and get married. Lovely!
To be honest with you I think it's the parents job to educate themselves so that they can relate to their children and understand how times are changing, as parents or when we become parents it's our job to be knowledgable and teach our children to become moderate muslims, do everything worldly but know our limits and what our priorities are as Muslims.
Okay you guys just swapped one set of stereotypes/generalizations for another one.
Can people not praise/stand up for one thing without dissing something else???