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By the time you hit 30 n have decide to have sex for the first time, you'll be a big disapointment in bed.
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^ agreed :)
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LB: Speak for yourself. Really, this holier-than-thou attitude coming from a lady WITH CHILDREN who puts up cleavage pics of herself on the internet for every Tom Dick and Harry to see is a bit sickening.
You should be mature enough to realize that each person is different, and that its okay to not be YOU.
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PCG - Im sorry but she is not wrong.
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TheNewWannaBe - I think the idea of saying that after 30, you can’t give good sex is just dumb. It differs from person to person, and making a categorical statement shows that you think you know everything, but you really don’t.
I work with mental health patients, and they are sexually active at 30, 40, 50, and even 60.
Libido differs per person.
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People may be sexually more active around those ages but we are talking about the "first time" sex, arent we? It is different. PCG, why do you think Islam encourages getting married early in age? I dont want to confuse religion with this but..... I often wonder.
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Whats your specific job? Who has funded this weird project of knowing whether mental patients are horny still at such and such age?
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PCG, we are not talking about having sex after 30s, but instead initiating sex after the 30s. Since most people have started it much earlier than that, so starting to satisfy your sexual desires after 30s is something that we don't have much idea of, and it can have strange (if not horrible) results.
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Sex is the first and foremost lure to sin. If anyone is trying to underestimate it is a moron. Early you get it, saner you are hence early marriages are promoted and desirable. Alas, marriages lead to other troubles 
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Thanks, for reminding me Zalim, this is another important reason why I am not married yet;) . But as one gets wiser when growing older, troubles are easier to deal with if you marry late (so you know yourself well), which is an argument against early marriage:)…
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underestimate what?
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lol, thanks for the PM guys, I almost missed PCGs usual outburst in this thread.
holier then thou n moi? Never. 
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Mistaken. Badly mistaken. Early you marry lesser the problems as you tend to learn and unlearn in tender age must faster. Allied problems with marriage get complex when you marry late.
TNWB: What is confusing you? Should you require to hear from Lucifer, you can very well read Nancy Friday.
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totally disagree. Depends on your maturity and capability to handle social issues.
Growing is boring - marry young while you still can have some fun 
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sme ppl underestimate sex and how important it is, which is like he said, moronic and stupid
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So let me get this straight - so far what I am able to get from the line of what passes for reasoning is you have to marry young to have good sex and to just have sex.
Sorry, can't agree. Some of us are lucky enough to have found someone at a younger age that is great for us. Others may not find a compatible match until they are older. Why should anyone settle or lower their standards because they feel horny once in a while? That has the makings of a marriage where everyone is miserable or bored and just going through the motions.
To think that if you wait to have sex until after 20 or 30 or any AGE then it would be boring or that you will be no good at it is silly reasoning. Sex is as good as the effort you put into it.
This is not underestimating sex, but putting it AMONG the other important stuff in life instead of above.
If I remember correctly - The Quran says marry early if you have a problem controling your sex drive, not to just marry for the sex. If you don't have a problem then why not wait? Makes sense to me.
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aha...minah..well said...once again the discerning voice of reason ! :D
but wait....
hmm....but the question is....wud a 30 yr old vrgn hav the exp./undrstndin to put in the rite effort??...cos honestly, thts too late in the day.
PS: sorry for being blunt :D
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I never had a problem with blunt.
naved - 30 is an age, not a cut-off point, there may be some issues to be overcome, but sex is the most natural drive out there. Believe me, it should be second nature.
I'm not saying there will not be problems, there will be, you can't go 30 years subduing something and one day let loose with no inhibitions, I'm just saying that putting a number on enjoying sex is a ridiculous thing to do. There is also no such thing as being "good at sex". It all depends on the partner you have. One thing that drives one partner batty will do nothing for the next. Sex is not something you need to practice to make perfect, that develops over time sometimes, with the right partner.
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Is this thread about marriage or sex?