Re: Who to choose?
Number 1
First of all there is no harm marrying a divorced person. Divorced people are human beings as well and like clothesmad said that you can make your home wherever as long as your heart is in it.
Frankly speaking number 2 is going to be really hard because there will be REFUSAL TO ACCEPT her as a STEP MOTHER from the 2 kids in the beginning no matter how much CONDITIONING they are going to get before marriage from the father that "kids I am remarrying." It is hard for kids to accept someone else in their life especially when they see her as a VILLAIN and a WOMAN who is going to replace their mother and as the woman in their dad's life. It takes ages and sometimes even then kids do not fully accept step moms in their lives.
She will constantly have to be on her two feet pleasing the kids in order to win a place in their hearts and at the same time pleasing her husband and what if when she gets pregnant and has her own kids? What if she gives up trying to make the kids LIKE HER? WHAT THEN? Will her affections lessen when she has her own children or WILL SHE RESENT HER HUSBAND if they decide to have less kids of their own because of the already 2 kids he is taking care of?
In the first situation, yes he has a SON but he does not have custody and she can treat her marriage to a certain extent as getting marrying to someone who was not married before.