Re: Who to choose?
They both sound good. She should go with her gut feeling on who is a better match for her as a person.. as a husband. Forget the logistics of moving, taking care of kids blah blah.
If it were the same guy in two different situations, I think I might be the only one to go for situation #2. I'd rather be a full time mother to 2 kids than whatever that first situation will become.