What if she marries a guy in IL and after 6 months they have to move because of his job (or whatever unavoidable circumstances) ? Will she apply of khulla/divorce?
In essence, moving/no moving should not be a Issue in bigger picture. She should consider other factors instead of making this a key issue unless of course guy lives in lets say Rawanda or Afghanistan etc. I am assuming that he lives only in different state of US
I dont have kids and never faced this issue so Im not sure what to tell someone.
Maybe some guppies could put their thinking caps on and help me out.
An acquaintance of mine is being faced with a proposal situation she would like some advice on.
She is divorced with no children.
Proposal 1 is from a guy who lives out of state. He is sweet, caring and really likes her. He is also divorced and has one small child from his previous marriage. He doesnt have custody but does see him once a week. His family is really nice and has tried to get to know the girl in a very loving way. The only drawback she sees is his location.
Her concern: She has always envisioned her life here in IL and this guy has no plans on moving from where he is because of his son. He cant leave him and she understands that. She is extremely nervous because of this move and doesnt know what to do. He is very nice but his location bothers her. She doesnt know if she can leave her life here behind like that.
Proposal 2 also lives out of state. He is sweet, caring and also really likes her. He is divorced and has two children from his previous marriage. He has full custody of the kids and is very close to them. This guy is willing to move to IL one day for her.
Her concern: She doesnt have children, will she able to step into a mother's role from the day she marries him? He has full custody of the kids, there will be no time to live and learn...she picks up where the other woman left off. Also the matter of attention...as a new wife...will she get her husband's attention the way she wants?
Anyone ever been in this situation that can offer some insight? What should she do to help her make her decision? What would you do? Any step moms on GS?