white washed pakis are those who are immersed in north american culture like watching baseball and football instead of cricket, watching hollywood movies instead of bollywood, speaking english instead of urdu, etc...
exotic because americans don't know us very well...they often mistake us for being hispanic or arabs....
So if you are into football, what does that make you.
On your second point, thats such a Paki self-deception. How many times have I heard how people say we are different from the Indians and Bangs, and how Spanish or Greek we look.