Well looks are the first filter when you don't know the person.
I mean, if you had to chose a wife with only looking at pictures....so then obviously you are gonna go for the most good looking one....
As for Desi guys....they need to step up their game big time....
First of all, they all roll in stags....
Second, they don't know how to dress, make conversation, and are stuck within their own cultural bubble and are extremely unfit and don't work out.
Third, they have a nasty habit of staring at girls.
Same goes for Desi Girls.
There are some decent ones out there...but many are too stuck up. There are either too religious, too liberal and some of them are too arrogant for their own good.
Thats why I try to pass my self as a non-desi cause desi guys have such a bad rap and never approach desi girls due to their attitude.
Desi people really need to broaden their horizons.
I am not doubting that looks might be the first filter but they can't be the only filter, playa. There are many men and women who might be attractive and by that I mean someone who you and I might both agree are attractive but you might find her more attractive than me. Its a range yea?
Coming back to guys. I take issue with the word "desi" because I don't want us Paki lads being lumped in with the others. But anyways you're spot on about all the points. I don't date but give woman the respect they deserve:
Facial hair: I think it's played out yo. Don't roll out in a full beard and hit the club and order a G&T. If you do have facial hair trim that thing.
Dress: My suit is my work uniform but come on now, each one of us should have a good fitting or custom suit. Even if you're not doing so well, instead of buying those gucci loafers or diesel jeans, get a proper black or navy suit. If your tall and thin get a 2 button, euro cut, double side vent coat with no pleat pants. And for the love of Allah polish those shoes, don't roll out ghetto with the sneakers or scuffed up thread.
Gym: I complained about Paki girls hittin the gym. This applies even more to the fellas. Work on those abs, run a tight cardio routine, and put down the samosas, chunky boys.
Talking: these are girls not monsters. talk to them like ladies, don't curse but don't giggle like a korean school girl either. Keep eye contact but don't have a wandering eye. Kalashnikov looks, son.
Merc, you might be able to salvage the Pakis rep by stepping it up. I am not in the dating game (for religious reasons) or looking to meet women, but it's ironic that I am giving this advice, when those people looking to date should be following this advice.
So whats the deal , you date white girls exclusively?