I was watching this pakistani drama seriel and there was a situation there as follows.
THere is this guy from a wealthy and respectable family and he starts to like his NOKRANI. She starts liking him too. Not to say she is not respectable but she is a servant afterall.
Now he wants to marry her but the family is against that. So my question is…
"should this marriage take place? Can a NOKRANI become a wife? Can u give her that place?
Now these are not my words or opinion. But what i saw in the drama and wondered what really should happen here.
So i would like to know what u guys would think of a situation like this if it were to happen in real life with say one of U. Where this guy would either be ur son, ur brother, ur cousin…or whoever. Would u be able to accept her as ur bhabi etc.?
Well i agree with what watcher said to some degree, but lets be realistic, in order to do this you must defy your parents, and your family traditions, keeping this in mind i would honor my parents despite my love for the girl, but only after all attempts at conviction fails.Priorities supercede all needs.
i dont know......
i havent been in love yet........but I think our parents are very important people.....and these days people leave them for very small reasons...... I would always give them a BIG chunk of decision making vote
ME ME ME!!!
Hey....can anyone tell me what clinton did with the Cigar???
Sajal Problem with Pakistani boys is that they can talk the talk, but can´t walk the walk. If you know what I´m saying.
All you have to do is look at the figures. How many people do you know, who married the person the fell in love with?.. ( most of them will tell you that they fell in love with the person they married..All I say is; did they have any other option? :) )
Sajal Problem with Pakistani boys is that they can talk the talk, but can´t walk the walk.**
what are you basing that on? just because you are reluctant about committments, doesn't mean we all are. I can make you change your mind about that if you want.Try me if you want, but dont ever say that again until you do. :)
This is our problem. What we say, we never implement, mean to say, to say is very easy but to implement is hard. And today, love has lost its meaning, its just become some kind uv a play..."dillagi". So we have to be carefull to make such comments. Agree with Nadeem. I wouldn't marry a "nokrani"..if its case of luv than I preffer my parents decision.
I think we already discussed this issue before. In my opinion such marriages where couples are not competible with each other in terms of education primarily, disaster is only waiting to happen. And what about the families...will they be able to communicate and interact with each other in a healthy positive manner. The reality is that such cannot occur.
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Originally posted by Ramis:
*Problem with Pakistani boys is that they can talk the talk, but can´t walk the walk. :) *
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Oops, ramis, you`re not givin our boys much credibility are you :( however in my experience you could be talking about 20%
-30% of pakistani guys. They aint all like that.:)
Sajal,
I feel this type of scenario is only seen in dramas, in real life, sorry to be crude but the guy just usually wants a "wham bam thankyou Maam" from the nokrani, nothing else.
In these types of families the nokar are only there for work, and to obey there master, thats it. Maybe there can be variations I aint sure.
In the case that this did actually happen in real life then i feel that they should be able to get married. She is a person afterall, not sommat outta space!!;)
[This message has been edited by Mariah (edited October 19, 2000).]
what are you basing that on? just because you are reluctant about committments, doesn't mean we all are. I can make you change your mind about that if you want.Try me if you want, but dont ever say that again until you do.
Mariah I too hope that things will change. Fortunately your experience is the same as mine, and somehow the circumstances may be different in the UK, compared to Pakistan or Denmark for that sake. My experience is that most of the Pakistani boys back out when it comes to committing themselves. Specially when they face trouble from the homefront. However good to see that things have changed a lot..
I can’t be sure about your parents.