Whats more difficult? Finding a good Job or Rishta?

[blackforest_360]

Re: Whats more difficult? Finding a good Job or Rishta?

^ Dang dudette, he was trying to have a discussion. Not every reply to an opinion is the opening door for an argument. However, if you now wish to be on the offensive it would make sense because I just called you out on your sensitivity.

Also, I think contrarian's reply was genius

[PyariCgudia]

Re: Whats more difficult? Finding a good Job or Rishta?

I don't think there is a comparison between the two. Why should there be?

But if you're referring to the plight of the young muslim woman today who has to decide between husband and job, or has to decide what to put more effort into, this is an age old debate, and just factors down to your values.

One thing is for sure. You can't feed yourself reliably if you wait around for a rishta to come around, and it never does. Clock ticks for jobs just as much as a biologic clock. It's harder to get a job/degree/employment the older you get, and the earlier you start, the better chances you have of doing what you want in a job.

A job is security. A husband, may or may not be.

[ButtSb]

Re: Whats more difficult? Finding a good Job or Rishta?

@madz124

1. I’m not a dude.
2. Don’t argue with me. The OP asked for different opinions. I gave mine. You have yours. We don’t have to agree on this.
3. True, at minimum, the only people involved in rishta process are immediate families and the couple. But that’s just the minimum #. Some people have big families, and the bhabhi/taayi/chachi/etc. can cause unnecessary drama/problems. Also, in case of engagements that do not lead to marriages, there are always those cases where it was a third party who ruined the couple’s chances. So yes, there is potential for a lot more people to be involved in the rishta process as compared to jobs.

don’t get madz at me … i was just making conversation…sheesh!!

@Contrarian

For an ideal job, stakes can be equally high, competition fierce, failure can be severely demoralizing. Let’s not forget a lot of people also “settle” for less than desired in a risha.

Besides the question is finding a good job or rishta, not which one is harder to get out of without serious emotional & financial repercussions.

Thats what i am saying too…

PS: why did you change your avtaar ?? I almost forgot you are a chic…

[gudiaali]

Re: Whats more difficult? Finding a good Job or Rishta?

Getting a rishta is easier but getting a GOOD rishta( one according to your expectations) is difficult than getting a job according to your expectations.

[Eastern_Dresses]

Re: Whats more difficult? Finding a good Job or Rishta?

@ButtSb

The processes seems equally excruciating.......what you say?\1. Job2. Rishta

Interesting question with no standard answer and a lots of variables. For example
Where in the level of career are you when you are hunting for a job. Entry level jobs are much easier to get compared to a mid career level job
In case of rishta you only need one person, so statistically, that should be easier once you start the search.

[uzair1]

Re: Whats more difficult? Finding a good Job or Rishta?

Most women just need a job
So they marry a man with one.

[madz124]

Re: Whats more difficult? Finding a good Job or Rishta?

@ButtSb

don’t get madz at me … i was just making conversation…sheesh!!

hehe, your wording (“believe me on that one…”) made it seem like your answer is the right one.

Khair, the thing is, maybe the answer differs by gender too? I think desi girls in general are so accomplished these days. On average, it is much easier to find pretty, educated, sensible desi girls in Pakistan or elsewhere. So guys (and their parents) have it easier. On the other hand, it’s a lot harder for a girl to find an educated, decent looking guy who isn’t also a d-bag.
Again, everyone’s experience is different. And there is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question.

[qu12]

Re: Whats more difficult? Finding a good Job or Rishta?

for boys,getting a job is difficult
and for girls, getting a gud rishta is difficult