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Dont judge a girl based on looks.... Some people have wrong assumptions about me as well like if I think I am the ****... If they get to know me, I am actually not something they predicted by my face and dressing... Every girl likes to look good and be fashionable yet decent, it is in our nature!!!

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I agree HotTea's way of getting hooked up is kinda bizarre. But he must be thinking that his cousin might get him introduced to some desi girl which he thought was difficult to find in the US. What I figured out is that he is shocked to see girls in Pak (or particularly Islamabad) having similar modern and liberal dressing styles as he has seen girls to be having in the US (or UK or where ever he lives).

The thing is if HotTea is looking for 'shareef' and saaf shafaf girls to marriage purpose, his way of finding such a girl was not correct. He should have asked his mom to look for any next door shareef girl in her circle. Their are plenty of 'shareef' girls in Pakistan but then there would still be no guarantee what they had been doing in their past and how they conduct themselves away from their families. But if dressing is the only criteria for judging girls sharafat, HotTea should ask his mom to look for a saaf suthri mashriqi larki for him.

Yes, Pakistan has become much more liberal and girls there are very modern. When marrying, you cannot pass a judgement that a girl living in Pak is more shareef than a girl bred outside Pak. It all depends on the tarbiat and we cannot just stereotype girls.

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YOUR FUNNY ;) ;) ;).... HAHAHA.... We should judge Hot Tea's values by analyzing his dumbest remarks for others.... I guess he is the shareefest munda on planet... :p.... Look at ur own-self first HOTTEA!!!

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Oh really. I didnt know words like not exactly "slutty" were associated with anything shareef. Oh well maybe you go by a different dictionary.

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Lol. Yeah, I was being polite to HotTea :p. Bachon ko samjhana humara farz hai :p

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Being liberal and having a very modern dressing style is usually taken synonymously with NOT being shareef especially by families and guys when considering a girl for marriage purpose. Dressing is not a proof of sharafat. I have seen many abaya clad girls doing inappropriate things. A girl should be considered beyond her dressing style when being considered for marriage. Its true that most desi guys and their families don't like to go for girl with very modern dressing styles unless their own sisters/ daughters have the same dressing styles.

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I didn't read all the comments here but if a guy or family doesn't want a girl who wears sleeveless/short dresses/etc or makes cleavage displays in her fb pics, then fair enough. Obviously in that one respect she is not conservative enough for them, so why would they look beyond that?

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give us an example mate, what do you mean by "libral" ?

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I think girls with sleeveless/ short/ low neck dresses; smoking; drinking; very close interaction with male friends (as obvious from their pics on facebook etc); inappropriate pics on facebook (I have seen pics of a Pakistani girl underwater in swimsuit); clubbing and dancing especially with male friends; use of bad words while interacting with others; lots of male friends; late nights; etc all come under the LIBERAL category as per many desis.

I don't think many desi men would go for girls with one or more of the above stated habits/ practices as they cannot see the mother of their future children to be engaged in any of such activities even though they had been engaged in similar kinds of activities.

However, I have also seen that such Pakistani girls get proposals from guys (usually through love marriages) and the girls continue with their liberal practices with their equally liberal husbands supporting them is these activities. As one of my friends say, such liberal girls get similar husbands.

**The Quran says in surah Al-Nour “corrupt women are for corrupt men, and corrupt men, for corrupt women – just as good women are for good men, and good men, for good women.”

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(I am not directing this to anyone and not pointing my finger on anyone. I am just talking generally. The definition of 'liberal' may be different for others).

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yeah and he said slutty was not the word to describe them.

I don't go by a different dictionary I just know how to read :)

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not exactly the word but close by, maybe you can only read but not understand.

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Funny how you throw in that quote right after dissecting the lives of "liberal" Pakistani girls

yeah i dont think you know how to do either one.

And I dont know how to red. how do you red? teach me o wise one ;)

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It was my observation which can be different from yours.

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If you are stupid enough to not notice the typo then what can i say.

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:mirch:

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lol...it seems like your single-muslim/speed dating event didn't go as planned. :p

i cant comment on the slutty isloo girls cuz these kinda girls exist everywhere, and same goes for the shareef girls.

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You are spoiling the fun.

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OP whats the problem with these liberal girls. If we are living in Pakistan, does it mean that we can't wear modern dresses, or we can't have friendship with opposite genders. Why people become so shocked when they see girls going out with their friends and doing halla gulla. kia hum Pakistaniyun ka haq nahin hai enjoy kerny ka life :p

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OPAre u saying that they look/seem more liberal than the girls uve seen arnd wherever you are living? what exactly is it that you did not appreciate?