What should we do....

[Thornewood9]

Re: What should we do…

@Bobby1

The doctor is slightly more muslim than the pharmacist, he is not a regular drinker but just a social drinker. He is the kindest. funniest and the most big hearted person I know. I haven’t seen any desi man as kind and gentle as him.

There is a new phenomenon out there and it is called social Muslims and scores of his friends identify with that
The girl is willing to compromise on his drinking and him being a social muslim. But she says he has to be discreet about it, She wants to raise kids muslims. I googled her and she is a legal advisor for a major bank so I guess she is doing okay financially. We just don’t like money oriented people. The other girls were not money oriented. Never for one second did they talk about money and this one hounded him for finances, He is saying she is insecure as she had gone from riches to rags after her father died and her BIL and also brother dont make money and she doesnt want her man to be like that.

Good advice, I think I will let him be and I guess he can decide. His older brother married a hindu girl and she is an amazing mom and wife. I think people should focus more on love.

I used to be like him and go after difficult girls then I realized that it was the challenge I liked and not the girl.

She explicitly told him that bw the two of them she wants to make 250 to 300k and wants a Benz n stuff

Being a discreet social drinking Muslim is not going to help raise good Muslims. Children are clever and they will not understand double standards. Obviously it’s up to the individual whatever they want to do but a Muslim must submit to his Lord all the time not just whenever he feels like it.
That’s the problem with this kind of hypocrisy in our society today. Everyone wants their cake and eat it too. Focusing on love isn’t going to be a good excuse when you’re being questioned by your Creator.
I apologise for going off topic.

I hope he finds the right girl for him and I hope he is guided to the straight path. May Allah guide us all, we are all sinners at the end of the day. Ameen.