Re: What is the Most Important Thing You want to Instill in Your Child?
Do not rush to make negative assumptions about a member’s intentions. I am surprised by the tone in your response because in my last post I had emphasized several times that I do find education necessary as a way of showing a commonality between us. I typed my post in a state of calm without any ill feelings toward you. Perhaps I could have worded it better though. I felt you misunderstood my stance when you called it narrow and so I tried to clarify it with examples. I mentioned my master’s degree and my profession with the purpose of showing that I do value education, not to show off. I stated that I don’t ind it narrow and I proceeded to explain why.
If you disagreed with my elaboration, I wouldn’t have minded if you challenged my reasons or if you had presented the flip-side to my examples. It provides food for thought. It’s a discussion. And it happens in every thread; people share their views and also question them. There’s nothing new about it. Deeba questioned and countered your view too and that doesn’t automatically make your view wrong, nor does it make her right. I am not raising your kids, so I am not imposing my beliefs on you. Neither am I critiquing your iman or your parenting. I just elaborated/clarified my stance with examples; that’s all.
And I did not respond to you with condescension or imply that you don’t know how to be an adult or that you are lacking in maturity. But this only reinforces what I said earlier. Education teaches us how to consider various arguments, how to debate a stance, but it doesn’t emphasize giving people the benefit of the doubt with their intentions…at least I don’t recall learning that in my academic career. That reminder is found in deen. Masalama. 