Re: what is meant by 'understanding' each other in a relationship?
Yes Offcours, I think there is sure lack of respect for each other, and specially for female, I'm not talking about the respect that comes from sacredness, its just to treat other person as human and not animal.
And i think this thing emerged from two things,
We are a dominated community, and its not far in our history, actually its still going on, i.e. the domination. Now a dominated community feels disgraced and a disgraced one, cant give respect. There is further psychological detail that why a dominated one finds it difficult to treat others better, But I'll try to be simple here.
We are following a religion which had grown in a tribal society, Now we all know that a tribal society is specifically cruel to females, there is a role of physical strength and women being weak are often the victums. So even reformed form of such a religion is quite cruel. And further the religion is an imported one, i.e. not indigenous, i.e. people tend to be superficial/ un-real about such things. You won't find arabs, as superficial about islam as people of this region, and people of the age of Mohammad was not at all unreal, because it was a matter of day to day life to them. So they treated it normally.