what can be the consequences..

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Re: what can be the consequences..

@LostAngel

now its the same old story and i am so tired of all this and life itself..
i really need some serious advice and help here..
i had been engaged to my cousin for like four years..and all that time i was down sad depressed for being with him..i just cudnt accept him..and so eventually after 4 years i broke up..two years in the break up and relatives kept trying to convince my dad to make me agrree to it…i wudnt have agreed to marry him but my dad fell sick..and i had no option but to say yes..at that moment i felt it was my fault for my dad being sick..
and now my wedding has been planned in november but im not happy..i want to run away and leave home…im so disappointed in my parents…y wud they do this to me..i feel like my dad has decieved me all this time..a part of me hates him for this..
my reasons for not putting up with that cousin is that i find him immature and insecure..he lacks confidence and self belief..and hez too conservative and narrow minded..
having said that..i have never asked my parents to marry me to someone of my choice..i have always kept their trust..all i want is to marry me to someone i feel comfortable with…

now im thinking to give a final decision to my parents and stick to it no matter what..
what can be the consequences?? i am so scared for my parents health and i wonder if it will be too much for them to take…would it be a blow to their respect and honour in the society???
am i being tooo stubborn in accepting him…and i wonder if i will regret it later..

Trust your guts and say it to them. It wont be a good idea to start a marriage when you cant accept him. They may not like it now but they will accept it eventually.

BTW, why are they insisting on it. What do they find in him? Or is it just to honour some old commitment.