I don't agree with posters who are saying that the hubby is atleast not a wife beater. What the hell. He is responsible for satisfying her needs other than roti, kapra aur makaan. If he is not then he will pay the price...actually he already is paying the price as another man has made way into his wife's heart, albeit thru chat.
People-O, marriage doesn't end after the wife pops out a couple of babies.
I don't condone what she's doing but may be the dude needs to make an effort.
And no it doesn't work the toher way around. A woman can still have sex even if she's not in the mood, but a man cannot. Blame basic physiology.
Sorry I disagree here. Flirting and getting emotionally involved with a member of the opposite sex is cheating too. You can cheat with your mind as well as with your body. How would YOU feel if your spouse carried on flirting in chatrooms with a member of the opposite sex?
She is wrongwrongwrong. Many men are not romantically inclined - my own husband included. He is the best husband and father on the planet. But his sense of romance is absent. And if thats my biggest problem then Mashallah for me!!!! So what - I dont get moonlight and roses. I DO get a wonderful husband and father. And on those rare occasions when I get a bouquet of roses or a super-special loving hug then I know that its something REALLY REALLY special.
This gal needs to get a grip on the things that matter in life and to be thankful for what she has instead of spitting on her husband by flirting with other men.
She isn't flirting, the guy is. She can easily block and ignore him forever and that is her fault. The rest of the blame goes to the husband, which is like 90%.
It's his job to keep his wife satisfied. It's not just a one way street. A husband doesn't need his wife to be feeling good to get satisfied. Unfortunately it doesn't work the same the other way around.
If she wants to be satisfied, then it is his DUTY to do it. He can bring home money, food and take care of the kids all he wants. That's also his DUTY. But you cannot neglect issues like these because he's doing his job at other things in married life.
Seef, sorry I cant bring myself to agree with you. It takes 2 to flirt. If she is giggling and enjoying then she is as much of a participant as the guy.
And no where I knowof requires a man to "satisfy" his wife with romance, moonlight and roses. Some men just arent romantic and they never will be. She wants something that he doesnt have in him to give. Yet, it sounds to me like he is a good husband, provider and father, the wife just selfishly wants him to get all googley-eyed over her. Thats plain selfish and egotistical. The flirty-guy is just inflating her ego more. And I bet the husband would be angry and heartbroken if he knew of these goings-on. I wouldnt blame him.
I don't agree with posters who are saying that the hubby is atleast not a wife beater. What the hell. He is responsible for satisfying her needs other than roti, kapra aur makaan. If he is not then he will pay the price...actually he already is paying the price as another man has made way into his wife's heart, albeit thru chat.
People-O, marriage doesn't end after the wife pops out a couple of babies.
In today's world and society if a husband is shareef , loves you and your kids, givs you respect is more than you can ask for. Little flaws comes with marriages it's really not a big deal.. how his wife trying to console her sadness? Well oh well.. by talking to another dude on the internet who is I bet trying to get into something else.. It's not him who needs help, it's his wife who is in a big trouble for doing something extremely wrong.
Mr. Fobalicious and Mrs. Fobalicious are both doing wrong. Mr. Fobalicious by not fulfilling emotional needs of Mrs. Fobalicious and Mrs. Fobalicious but cheating Mr.Fobalicious. You are trying to paint Mrs as "innocent" as possible under circumstances.
Sorry to say but Mrs. Fobalicious is trying to cover her 'acts' in the veil of Mr. Fobalicious' innocence . The person who has to get her act straight is not Mr. but Mrs. Marriage is a commitment and not a TV show that you can switch if you are not feeling excited or entertained . I think your friend definitely need friends but someone like you , who are sincere and willing to help, and not like the one who is just flirting .
Seef, sorry I cant bring myself to agree with you. It takes 2 to flirt. If she is giggling and enjoying then she is as much of a participant as the guy.
And no where I knowof requires a man to "satisfy" his wife with romance, moonlight and roses. Some men just arent romantic and they never will be. She wants something that he doesnt have in him to give. Yet, it sounds to me like he is a good husband, provider and father, the wife just selfishly wants him to get all googley-eyed over her. Thats plain selfish and egotistical. The flirty-guy is just inflating her ego more. And I bet the husband would be angry and heartbroken if he knew of these goings-on. I wouldnt blame him.
The point isn't whether she's flirting or not. She's already in the wrong by communicating with a guy in that manner.
And yes a man is required to satisfy his wife by whatever means necessary. They don't need to have a candle light dinner or rose pedals on their bed, but he has to make an effort in trying to keep his wife happy. There are different types of happiness. Some husbands are able to respect and take care of their wives which keep them happy. And there are other ways to also make her happy and it's obvious what the OP is talking about here.
