Well, dont take stress, u cannot plan anything in advance. Just go with the flow..its love marriage or not that really isnt important! One cannot explain or teach you about what to do and what not to. U and he will manage everything and u"ll be laughing at your fears later. Trust me.. Communication is important first!
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You say you're old enough to be married yet still ask this question, and when you get comical responses you say not funny. If you're "old enough" I'm sure you have more than SOME clue as to what will be going down.
I assume you're talking about when he enters the room and your questions is relating to sex and all that jazz? Yes?
Regardless, what CB said is the best way to go about it. Don't expect this and don't expect that. You say its both love and arrange. You two surely have a certain level of understanding so you should be able to talk about it on the night and not be too awkward or freaked out. I am not personally married but I know people who, in that situation, have talked about it with their spouse and they (more often than not) tend to save the "fireworks" for a couple of days after when both are ready for it. It's all about when you feel it.
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials and all the best to both of you!
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his like the decent type, he doesnt say anything out of term cause he believes all that should be left till after the wedding?
If he's the "decent" type then he probaly wont just force it upon you on the actual night.
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You say you're old enough to be married yet still ask this question, and when you get comical responses you say not funny. If you're "old enough" I'm sure you have more than SOME clue as to what will be going down.
I assume you're talking about when he enters the room and your questions is relating to sex and all that jazz? Yes?
Regardless, what CB said is the best way to go about it. Don't expect this and don't expect that. You say its both love and arrange. You two surely have a certain level of understanding so you should be able to talk about it on the night and not be too awkward or freaked out. I am not personally married but I know people who, in that situation, have talked about it with their spouse and they (more often than not) tend to save the "fireworks" for a couple of days after when both are ready for it. It's all about when you feel it.
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials and all the best to both of you!
no obviously im not stupid, i do know what will happen but i just wasnt sure as what im supposed to say when and what's going to go on, but thanks for your advice im sure ill be fine :)
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If he's the "decent" type then he probaly wont just force it upon you on the actual night.
no i know he wont but still im just thinking what might happen or what might not
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Well, dont take stress, u cannot plan anything in advance. Just go with the flow..its love marriage or not that really isnt important! One cannot explain or teach you about what to do and what not to. U and he will manage everything and u"ll be laughing at your fears later. Trust me.. Communication is important first!
i hope so
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^ How old are you again?
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^ well you wanna go in detail man... give a look to kali zuban tips :D
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Just take a deep breath and don't expect anything :)
ur expectations might be higher than what u get out of it...and this can cause desappointment...
talk with ur hubby to be, and to tell im what you would like to do on ur first night, and deffo ask him (it can be that u guys just need a few nights to patch up and talk the nights away :) )...u will be nervous, but don't get scared to much...that will make some things more difficult.
If u wanna have/use precaution do mention it to him (or take urs if you want to)...but do discuss this in advance
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STA has this book collection on the topic, you can borrow..
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^ And you have none to offer yourself? :D
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Hmmm, I don't get why the OP is being chided by some in a condescending manner. It is natural to feel anxious about the unknown. In my opinion the argument that ...well if you're old enough to get married...is a weak one. It's like saying age should prevent curiosity and fear of the unknown and that's not so. Does staying quiet, not discussing a matter, or feigning awareness reflect maturity? Not necessarily.
Halima...Talk to your husband about it when the time comes. He can help put you at ease. It would be important for him that you feel comfortable (especially since you both have developed a rapport/understanding) or the situation will be awkward for him as well.
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^ And you have none to offer yourself? :D
sure, i say carry a lemon slice, squeeze over hubby's privates, if he cries, he has herpes. run away. if not, well. citrus.
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i knew what was going down the moment she unclipped her hair :jano:
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If he's the "decent" type then he probaly wont just force it upon you on the actual night.
what if she wants to force it upon him?
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what if she wants to force it upon him?
i doubt i will :)
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STA has this book collection on the topic, you can borrow..
STA has republished his own version of One Thousand and One Nights. I heard this one is even more juicier.
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I m so tired of this question... Like seriously you girls wanna come on public forums and ask these question... It's so annoying
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I m so tired of this question... Like seriously you girls wanna come on public forums and ask these question... It's so annoying
Don't read it then
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If he's the "decent" type then he probaly wont just force it upon you on the actual night.
what if she wants to force it upon him?
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lol.... Then she would not be asking the question in post uno :@: