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$500 would equal to about $30,000 and that's a pretty decent amount, in my opinion.
Shikra, can u do my accounting for me now :D
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the only reason i can think of that someone might have suggested that amount because he is the uncle....in most pakistani families....uncles/mamos/chachas/phuppos tend to give a little more
its not expected....but i see it happen quiet often....i know in my family it does
just give whatever you guys feel comfortable with...dont let anyone else call the shots
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hahahahahahahahahaahha…you know what I meant 
hahahahahah…buss kuch youn hi samajh lo 
salary 1,500 milti hai aur next day jab bank jama karwaney jaata hoon tou $30,000 ley kar jaata hoon
Sure. And I promise I would make you really rich overnight, well, according to paperwork any way
Mama Just to clarify, when I said $500 would equal to $30,000, I meant to say 30,000 RUPEES…NOT DOLLARS!!!
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I think 500 is alot to give too lol! But its within somewhat reasonable range since my hubby is the mamoo. 1500 though, sheesh thats an awful lot of money for us to dish out. my hubby thinks he has to do it so i wont pressure him but heck man, there are 3 other kids in that family getting close to marriage age. I'm breaking out in a sweat thinking about it and starting to look for a job!
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yah i know :(...the pressure is always there......and if you dont give 'enough'....people remember it FOREVER.........so mama either its 1500 or a pair of raymond weil...hehe
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^ mama that's not fair... u shudnt have to suffer financially in ur daily life just to please them, cmon 1500 for one wedding is just greedy! Give them as much as u can keeping in mind that whatever amt you give, shud be multiplied by 4 (since total of 4 kids of mariageable age)....
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^well we shouldnt be so quick to judge sara! you dont know their family/ financial situation. in normal circumstances $500 should be quite sufficient but if the family needs help and u are one of the elder male relatives then you are expected to help out with the wedding
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^Yes it would be great for anyone to pitch in that
much but only if they could afford to.
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^ Yeah and mostly those ppl are thankful for whatever one can afford and does pitch in, rather than complain abt the amount. Many have mentoined what is a reasonable yet generous amount, and i believe it goes a long way in Pakistan...but if they're still going to complain that whatever amount they got was too small then they dont even deserve that much to begin with.
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Its going to be really tough for us to afford that amount. But then, the wedding is going to be just HUGE. And my hub has a great job at a well known international bank and we live in a nice town near NYC. So its just assumed that we can afford it yeah? I guess I'd rather do that than have the family over there think that we're misers, esp since there really is no way that they could ever understand our own new york reality, know what I mean?
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mamaof3
btw I sent you a PM a couple weeks back.
Did you get it?
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Sajal, I'm SO sorry, yes I did get it! And it arrived at a really crazy busy time...I kept meaning to answer then also kept forgetting, SO sorry, will answer!
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^That's ok. Thanks for replying. :)
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Mamaof3,
Don’t be taken for a ride! Usually identical relations give/gift the same amount/thing. So ask around, see what the rest are giving and then give accordingly.
Oh, and by the by…
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$1500 is ridiculous to ask for, esp since you mentioned it is a huge wedding, obviously they can afford to have a huge wedding. Do not go above $500 US. Thats very greedy for someone to suggest what you "SHOULD" give...that defeats the purpose of a gift anyhow if its demanded. Give what you can easily, and remember you'd have to give at least that amount or more for the other weddings you have coming up. Someone might say well you gave her $1500 so you have to give the next person at least $1500......
give $500 or less and put a $1000 in your OWN kids savings account!
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There is a price you pay for being a mamoo and this is the price you pay for being a well off mamoo from USA Its some sort of cultural practice for the maternal uncles to pay for all the dowry, as if its not enough that the mothers side pays for her own dowry that they now have to pay for the daughters daughters dowry too! I think its all rubbish, give as much dowry as you can afford without having to burden others. But then again knowing how important dowry is in Pakistan ppl probably have no choice but to arrange for it one way or the other. is verzi the only mamoo? poor lad. I’m sure you know how well off the sisters family is and if they r asking for the money out of need or greed. If Verzi is the only donor and sister is not well off then maybe he should try to make it happen but if there r other mamoos on the scene too who will be contributing plus im sure the girls father must be putting in soemthing too then do they really need $1500.00 just from you? You mentioned its going to be a grand wedding so the money is probably need for the pomp and show, I think yo ushould not give the amount but something more reasonable like $500.00, afro is correct if you give $1500 for this one u will be expected to pay at least the same amount for other neice’s weddings too if not more.
my dad is still paying for even his neices daughters weddings 
lets hope it’ll just stop at the neice for you guys 