Wedding budget

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Unless you get a ready-made one (which I do not think is a good idea) you won't get anything really in a week. I gave my order within the 1st week I was in Pakistan and got my lengha within a month. But that is also because it was designer and I became friends with them. My Valima lengha was ordered at the end of Dec and is still not ready. They are still working on it....you need time for these things. IT also depends on how heavy and intricate the work is on your lengha...but I suggest if your taking some vacation time take at least a month...a week is not enough to shop.

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mine took a month and it was not too heavy either...have your bridals in your hands at least a month in advance...always.

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you are very lucky mashAllah..
but you said your mum has been getting clothes for you since some years back, to phir un kapron ka fashion old nai ho jayega????

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Why not ready made? I think I might have to cause papa is just saying that it will be easier since we will be there for 3 weeks, and the wedding will prob be the 2nd/3rd week.....

That's what I was gonna ask too, exactly how much would a ready made lehnga be from a designer botique and a regular botique?

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I have heard that the boutiques in pakistan sell ready made dresses which they fit according to a person's size... so hopefully there are some boutiques in Pakistan which offer such service fors shadi lehenga and can deliver a shadi lehenga in as little time as 3-4 days... of course they would not be designer lehengas and the lehenga might seem to be ordinary without that designer 'exclusive' feel. But it is a good option for those who gets lesser time in Pakistan for shopping of their bridal lehengas and if the shop is a good one, we might get good quality and design in affordable prices (of course without the option of making change in the lehenga color or kaam)...

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I really don't mind if I don't have a designer lehnga. My parents will already be paying so much on tickets and clothes, jewelry and accesories, that I would feel extremely bad if they had to buy a designer lehnga.... As long as it is not a red color, I'm cool with whatever. My fiance, his mom and sister, my khalas all know my style and I (really hope!) know that they will pick something nice!

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You can either buy ready made or if you want to have it prepared for you then at least they will take 20 days but its the minimum number of days. i would suggest that you can select any design on the net and ask any of your relative to order your dress and you can have it stitched but more over nowadays there are many good wedding planners available so you can coordinate with them and they will take care of each and every thing. Venue selection, dresses ,food, catering, photography , Video converge , floral stage décor, lighting etc. I live in Islamabad and I can give you some good contact numbers of some very good wedding planners.

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^ Thank you for the thought, but my nana takes care of any and all wedding related things in our family. And my khala, who will be my MIL also did the wedding for her daughter a couple of years ago, so I bet she knows what to do too. Really, I think the only thing for my family is to show up in Pakistan!

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Hey guys,

I wanted to ask if any of you guys are familliar with the scenario where the wedding and walima dress you've picked out isn't falling inside a certain budget that you have been given from the grooms side? What do you do if their budget is very tight and it just isnt giving you enough room to pick out what you like. Especially if you live in the US or Canada where your options are already limited. Is it wrong to add more money in from the girl's side in order to have a little more flexability and options for yourself? Has anyone gone through this experience? I just wanted to know if that is going against all cultural traditions when it comes to Pakistani weddings. And we're not talking about designer dresses or anything, anything, even ready made suits that can be found in stores over here in canada and the US.

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I don't think it would be going against any traditions, but the thing is, it could cause a rift between both sides. If your mom or MIL or anyone else still has theirs that they don't want anymore, you could get it fixed up to fit your style. I would suggest buying one, and splitting the difference as a very very last resort, and to make sure that no one finds out, because again, it can cause some MAJOR problems. Is anyone against asking them if they could add a little bit more money for the budget? I really don't know...

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Well the thing is, my fiance is against it. He feels that this is supposed to be handled from the grooms side and thats the way it should be. I've shopped around and nothing is falling under his budget so I just dont know how to explain to him that its okay and that the cost is something we can split because I also dont want to put a burden on him but at the same time, its my wedding and I want to wear something of my own choice. My MIL has passed away, so it is just between my fiance and I to decide what to do and as much as he wants me to wear the dress of my choice, the cost of both dresses isn't falling in his budget either so I guess I'm looking for a way to explain that its okay to split the cost in a way that is sensitive towards him about the subject because you know how it is with men and their pride especially when it comes to things like money and this. He wants to be able to do it for me but at the same time, he feels like its a lot of cash for a dress. How do I explain to him that it isn't going against traditions?

I think the most sensative part about this is that his mother is not here during this time to take care of everything so I think he just wants to make sure that everything is being done the way he thinks his mother would of handled it and keeping with all traditions that she would of upheld. I'm going to talk to him tonight but I just need to find a way to win him over with out hurting his ego or pride and taking away from his expectations about the wedding and how he wants to handle it in his mothers place.

You know? help :(

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^i don't think there's anything wrong with putting in a little money if ur fiance can't. in a perfect world your fiance would have given you a larger budget...but ultimately u want to look back and be satisfied with everything and not regret anything IA

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Like whatever said, in a perfect world. When you talk to him, just be like, I respect you and love you and everything, but we only get married once, and I want it to be perfect. We have the rest of our lives for you to buy me anything and everything, but I really would like this dress. Or try compromising with something. Say I will buy the dresses, and you can handle something else with the wedding, like gifts and such if you do that.

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i am sure not cuz i live here.. and i always wear stuffs that looks good on me and thats all i care.. I wish i could go with the fashion like in pakistan but sometimes old is always gold.. sometimes puranay fashion becomes new too if you wear it after some time.. btw my cloths are not the 90's kind.. they were bought and saved from the last 2-3 years.. so i am sure i wont look too wierd :p

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^niceee mashAllah :)

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*Fashions are always coming back, no matter what country or culture. *

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is 40 lakh rupees enough for a great wedding in pakistan??(with designer outfits, best photographer, mua and all)...
(if u dont count the tickets)