This guy once pursued me for sometime with the intention of getting married. I gave in and asked him to send his parents over to my place. We are Karachiites. My parents were fine with it as long as the guy is educated and decent. However, his mom came over and then when she went back, she told her son how she isn't comfortable with this coz we weren't Punjabis??!?! umm YOUR son was the one who pursued me and now you have the audacity to tell me that I am not good enough for your son coz you guys are Punjabi? Needless to say, I gave him a piece of my mind and never spoke to him again. :D
Another friend of mine actually got involved with a Punjabi guy and his mom also said that she doesn't trust my friend coz she isn't Punjabi! My parents were initally very comfortable with having their kids get married to anyone in Pakistan regardless of their ethnicity. But after they saw how that guy's mother acted and when they heard several stories regarding Punjabis preferring their own kind, they have become paritcular about ethnicity and are afraid to get us married to Punjabis.
Not all Punjabis are like this though but Punjabis and Pathans are very particular about their ethnicities whereas Karachiites are not. Probably coz being a Karachiite isn't an ethnicity...we are just city people!
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So, I am curious. Most of you posting here are either Punjabi or Pathan, and can trace your heritage back to the northern half of Pakistan.
Would you be opening to marrying an immigrant recently come over from Sindh or Balochistan?
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Well im not a punjabi or pathan, I am a memon. As far as marrying an immigrant is concerned it depends on how educated they are and their general behaviour. I have come across many Sindhis, punjabis and pathans throughout my life. Alot of them living in karachi. Best thing about karachi is its diversity. I have lived in lahore and islamabad too but the diversity you find in karachi is quite unique. There are a bunch of sindhi and pathan guys i know who would make really good husbands. I defintly would consider them. It also depends on what part of Sindh or Balochistan they are from. Someone from Hyderabad might be very different from someone from Larkana. An ex-crush of mine was a guy who came to karachi for medical college from sindh. He was so well read and knew about pretty much everything and was more open minded than alot of the local karachiites..
This guy once pursued me for sometime with the intention of getting married. I gave in and asked him to send his parents over to my place. We are Karachiites. My parents were fine with it as long as the guy is educated and decent. However, his mom came over and then when she went back, she told her son how she isn't comfortable with this coz we weren't Punjabis??!?! umm YOUR son was the one who pursued me and now you have the audacity to tell me that I am not good enough for your son coz you guys are Punjabi? Needless to say, I gave him a piece of my mind and never spoke to him again. :D
Another friend of mine actually got involved with a Punjabi guy and his mom also said that she doesn't trust my friend coz she isn't Punjabi! My parents were initally very comfortable with having their kids get married to anyone in Pakistan regardless of their ethnicity. But after they saw how that guy's mother acted and when they heard several stories regarding Punjabis preferring their own kind, they have become paritcular about ethnicity and are afraid to get us married to Punjabis.
Not all Punjabis are like this though but Punjabis and Pathans are very particular about their ethnicities whereas Karachiites are not. Probably coz being a Karachiite isn't an ethnicity...we are just city people!
Yes city girl
Lahore, Islamabad and Rawalpindi and other places are small villages na
u want some Lassie with Paratha?
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Well im not a punjabi or pathan, I am a memon. As far as marrying an immigrant is concerned it depends on how educated they are and their general behaviour. I have come across many Sindhis, punjabis and pathans throughout my life. Alot of them living in karachi. Best thing about karachi is its diversity. I have lived in lahore and islamabad too but the diversity you find in karachi is quite unique. There are a bunch of sindhi and pathan guys i know who would make really good husbands. I defintly would consider them. It also depends on what part of Sindh or Balochistan they are from. Someone from Hyderabad might be very different from someone from Larkana. An ex-crush of mine was a guy who came to karachi for medical college from sindh. He was so well read and knew about pretty much everything and was more open minded than alot of the local karachiites..
We're Pathan, well mixed but hey-ho! I can trace our family tree back a far bit too.
I'm married to a Khattak pathan, who are originally from Bannu, but now his family is settled in Karachi.
When I was thinking of marriage I never outruled getting married to someone from where we originate from.
As others have said it's not just an area that plays a large part in someones behaviour/habits etc. Education, family influences and who you socialise with play big parts too.
My other half comes from a hardworking family, is educated and is a true gentlemen so I had no issues in saying yes to marrying him. His family also only have one wife rather than having multiple wives which to be honest would have put me straight off. I don't see any wrong with this practice, it's just not something I'd like to be a part of.
I don't understand how ppl can care about this retarded stuff in this day and age. my background is Punjabi... and my first language has always been Urdu. I'm not even fluent in Punjabi. I don't understand hardcore Punjabi. always considered myself a Pakistani first and foremost. my awareness of the Punjabi identity is limited to the fact that my parents come from Punjab - that's it.
so, I don't understand this fascination with ethnicity and the related biases. I think an educated Lahori would be far more comfortable with an educated person from Peshawar or Quetta than some illiterate person from some far off Punjabi village. similarly, an educated Karachiite would probably be a far better off with an educated Islamabadi than someone uneducated from interior Sindh, etc, etc...
educated, open-minded ppl across Pakistan share a culture and identity that transcends trivialities like color, ethnicity, caste, sect, etc. and if we don't already then, then, we need to get rid of these stupid ethnic and sectarian biases. if our generation doesn't play its part in completely snuffing out this jahaalat then God help us all... it doesn't matter if you`re Punjabi/Sindi/Baloch/Pashtun, Shia/Sunni/etc - we're all Pakistanis.
