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^yeaaa!!! adoption!!!
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ya but she has to get married...cuz...ummm...cuz then we can hang out as couples..yaah :)
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no marriage...no wayyyyyyy
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aisay keeray nikaalnay beth gai to phir to kisi ki shadi hi na ho.
Besides, there's only so much one can do prior to marriage to find out about the prospective. Most people are usually at their best behaviour, so the real side (or the bad behaviour) usually starts to kick in later.
Oh and I've also heard 'shadi woh laddo hai jo khai woh bhee pachtai (regret) aur jo na khai woh bhee pachtai (regret)' :p
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if ur gut feeling is that they are the one, then go for it...
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awesome thread! so true!
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^Thanks sweeto!
Sara...why is it that you ask and no one answers ur queries huh...some hidden gup conspiracy?
Anyway, arranged on not arranged, you can still find this out. These days if even you get into an arranged marriage situation ... do u get the engagement period. Well even islamically, its your sole duty to get to know that person during that moment ... really well before taking the plunge. A called off engagement is far better than a life ahead which is really hard to continue and then taking the ulitimate way out through a divorce.
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^ Yeah but unfortunately too many (or even one acutally) broken off engagement can mess with ur reputation. Then again, I’d rather have ppl talk about me than live the rest of my life as a miserable shell of who I once was :rotato:
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^^My most endearing Sara.... To be honest, I've married someone who was/is(err?) my soulmate and the bestest of the bestest friends I've ever ever made in life.... But (don't u just hate the buts and ifs) But... Still I can not rid my life or my self of having ppl talk about me in alot of twisted ways (ahem mostly inlaws) U know why, because a twisted mind will only yield a dimented conclusions no matter how much(good) you do for them. A person that I married to spend the rest of my life with, and to love and to cherrish through better or worse days... sigh makes u hurt... when ppl still missunderstand your intentions and they think the worst of you regardless (yeah I'm still talking about inlaws or even others sometimes who are just too darn nosey).
Anyway... my point is, desis thrive on gossip and dwell in the business of ruining another's blissful life. Ppl are shallow, self-centric and all sorts of evils u can imagine from them...they can be all that. So to hell with the world Sara, just live life at your own potential because we have to be honest to ourselves, and owe nothing to anyone else but ourselves in the end.
Therefore I like the ending of your post :) Way to go girl!
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awww… well it’s great that u dont let idiots get to you and ur married to a wonderful person. But the reasons u stated, thats why I am heavily against living with in laws, not becoz i’m snobby or bitchy (okay maybe :halo: ) but becoz I think it’s important for a couple to have some time alone together, wihtout in laws. If it makes me a “feminist retard” then so be it 
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^hey girl thats how the likes of us sabotage our own selves by not giving our insight credit rather we show guilt through words such as '…
^^See hon 
Sara, if I’m saying this to you I’m actually saying it to myself…i.e. We need to quit being so sensitive for others when they just walk all over us without feeling a thing man! But how to do that? Do u know?
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Well, those aren't the words I woudl persoanly use to describe myself or what I want, but I've heard those terms used liberally, around here and in real life, about women who are adamant about not wanting to live with in laws. As for bitchy and snobby, I may be that way (or aspire to :D ) but not because I don't want to live with in laws
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^Yeah I know that Sara 
hope I didn’t get u all worried grins
Anyway, for the long run to you and all guppies I would advise that when considering to marry someone get to know their immediate family members well enuf too (this rule doesn’t just applies to desis only) cuz you do have to come in contact with them, and ofcourse we can’t keep them phoning their asses off into one’s private life probing and proddinghumpf while even living at a very very long distance taking faida of those weak émotional moments esp a couple has abit of a down day.
ahyhh…So much for married ppl
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